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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction

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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
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Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction
April 7, 2019

If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating?

Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally “see the light”?

In order for compassion to work, it has to come from an even deeper place of compassion in you… not for others, but for yourself.

Then, when you are abundant in self-compassion, you will be able to show genuine caring and compassion for others without the drain on you.

To make sure your compassion doesn’t kill you in your relationships, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast. 

8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

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If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills by reading this article.

This article is meant to be tongue-in-cheek but also contains an important reminder about how people-pleasing almost always leads to unhappiness.

Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:

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Is it ever okay to release toxic family?

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I received an email from someone who was very angry with me. She said “You should be ashamed of yourself for teaching that it is okay to break ties with family!“

She was referencing an episode I did on toxic family members and how I said if they are too toxic to be around that it’s okay to part ways with them.  [Read more…]

Making decisions that are right for you, and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all – Part 2

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Part 2 – Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all
Part 2 – Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all
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Part 2 – Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all
February 6, 2019

This is part two of a two-part episode. Part one is here.

The subject is all about obsessive behavior and repetitive thoughts that keep you stuck. Whether they’re about your ex, your job, or your life, it can be a huge challenge to stop thinking of something that has a great impact on you.

It’s time to get out of the rut. Listen to both parts of this episode and learn what it takes to make the right decisions for you. When the obsessive thinking stops, you’ll be able to get back to a more efficient, more productive, more fulfilling life.