The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When it’s time to call it quits in a relationship – Weaning family off you – Finding Purpose

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Is it time to call it quits in your relationship? When do you know? Are there signs that you can look at that might make you think, “Hey, that’s happening to us! Maybe we should split up.”

There are many indications that it might be time to call it quits in your relationship, but it doesn’t mean you have to split up. In fact, listen with your partner if you think you may be experiencing relationship hiccups so that you can discuss what can be done instead of just throwing in the towel.

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Don’t Want You in My Mind – Spouse’s Parents Don’t Like Me – Most Important Relationship Lessons – Standing in Other’s Shoes

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What is it with pervasive thoughts about people you don’t particularly care about? You already don’t want to see them in person, so how do you keep them from appearing in your mind?

In segment one of today’s show, I read a letter from a woman who can’t get her husband’s ex-wife out of her mind. How do you get rid of consistent, unwelcome thoughts like this?

How can you finally rid yourself of that one persistent thought in your mind’s eye? I have a few suggestions.  

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Suicidal Thoughts – You’re Not Alone – The Big Picture in Relationships – Taking Time to Heal Loneliness

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Many people walk around in darkness believing that the only way out is to kill themselves. I don’t believe that. In fact, I think suicide takes away choice which may feel more imprisoning than thinking you have no choice in the first place.

Having more choices is the goal, not taking them away. I talk about considering suicide in this first segment and also wrote an article on it right here. [Read more…]

What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems

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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
April 16, 2017
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Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.

Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.

In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.

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Emotionally Needy People – Tapping into your Foundation – I Didn’t Ask For Your Advice – Fighting Desires

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Emotionally Needy People – Tapping into your Foundation – I Didn’t Ask For Your Advice – Fighting Desires
Emotionally Needy People – Tapping into your Foundation – I Didn’t Ask For Your Advice – Fighting Desires
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Emotionally Needy People – Tapping into your Foundation – I Didn’t Ask For Your Advice – Fighting Desires
April 2, 2017
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What if you’re in a relationship where you need an emotional connection from someone else but they don’t seem to be in the same space as you? 

Sometimes the one you love will come home after a long day and you just want to shower them with love, but they don’t seem to want to shower you back.

Is there something wrong with them? Is there something dysfunctional about you?

If you are in a loving, supportive relationship, but can’t seem to connect to your partner, the first segment of this episode will help you sort out what might be going on.

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