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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship

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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
February 19, 2017

When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do?

You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a hundred years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.

In this segment, I’ll ask you what’s wrong with having obsessive thoughts, why are they a problem, and if there’s anything you can do about what you’re obsessing over. I’ll also talk about your resistance to them and how it causes you to suffer. If you have been suffering from that negative internal dialogue, listen to this episode.

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Is It Selfish or Self-Sustaining? – The Mom Who Wasn’t There – Obsession About Partner’s History

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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
November 13, 2016

What is acceptable to you, and what is not?
What is considered self-sustaining, and what is selfish?

I read an email from someone who’s in a constant battle in his mind, unsure if he’s honoring his personal boundaries or just being completely self-serving. He also gets into a debate and overanalyzes to the point of indecision.

There’s a way to decide, and it involves the question: What what you do if you were completely fearless or unafraid of the consequences?

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The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex

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The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex
The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex
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The Meaning of Communication – Guilt by Manipulation – Obsessing Over the Ex
October 30, 2016

What you say isn’t always what they hear. What they understand isn’t always what you conveyed. Who is responsible for the communication, you? Them? Both? Neither? It’s time to explore this topic.

In Ask Paul part 1, I read a message from someone who got out of a manipulative, abusive relationship with a malignant narcissist. It was a crazy time for her, and she is healing, but she shares a lesson for us all.

In Ask Paul part 2, I read a letter from someone still obsessing over his ex. They were together a short time but he’s still grieving over the death of their relationship. What can you do when you’re in that state?

Tune into the Love and Abuse podcast to help you learn how to navigate difficult relationships

Sometimes you have no options left so you become depressed

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Sometimes you have no options left so you become depressed
Sometimes you have no options left so you become depressed
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Sometimes you have no options left so you become depressed

Feeling stuck, like really stuck, sucks. And when you feel like you have no other options but to accept your circumstances, it can feel sad.

And sometimes, you can even become depressed, making you wish you could at least feel sad again!

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When the fear of failure stops you from doing anything and everything

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When the fear of failure stops you from doing anything and everything
When the fear of failure stops you from doing anything and everything
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When the fear of failure stops you from doing anything and everything

It’s one thing to be afraid to fall off your bike. It’s another to never consider riding one at all, just in case you fall.

The fear of failing can be imagined as so traumatic and painful to some that they literally do nothing instead. As you know, doing nothing leaves you in a rut. It is the fastest way to go nowhere.

It’s time to redefine failure and learn what success actually feels like.

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