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Overcoming General Unease – When Nothing Works Out in Life – Questioning Trust in Relationships

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Overcoming General Unease – When Nothing Works Out in Life – Questioning Trust in Relationships
Overcoming General Unease – When Nothing Works Out in Life – Questioning Trust in Relationships
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Overcoming General Unease – When Nothing Works Out in Life – Questioning Trust in Relationships
March 5, 2017
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In part one of this special three-part article, I dive into the underlying currents of fear, anxiety, and discomfort that can shadow our everyday lives, influencing decisions and interactions, particularly with toxic individuals.

These choices, often made to avoid conflict, can lead to a cycle of unhappiness and fulfillment. I explore the concept of “taking the bullet”—making tough, pivotal decisions that can either perpetuate misery or halt it altogether.

In part two, I address the despair that comes from a life where everything seems to lead to more pain and toxicity, questioning what to do when all seems lost and when your past is marred by abuse and neglect. There is a way of rewriting your future, regardless of past hardships.

In part three, I talk about the importance of building trust in relationships. This journey involves making definitive choices and moving toward closure about things you feel like you can’t let go. Closure allows for a shift from a life of turmoil to one of peace and fulfillment.

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Filed Under: Ask Paul, Betrayal, Decisions, Divorce, Human Potential, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: General Unease, Nothing's Working, Questioning Trust

When Love Isn’t Enough – Will Marriage Fix Dysfunction? – Untying Selfishness From Personal Boundaries – Tolerating Abuse

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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
January 29, 2017
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Is love enough? Will it overcome anything that happens in your life?

Financial struggles, family problems, arguments, abuse, and more… will your faith in love be enough to get you through the tough times? I read a letter from a young man who wonders if love is enough to get through anything. To add a bit of challenge on top of that, what if that love is only one-sided?

 
Love is supporting the other person’s path and wanting them to be happy. When you start with that, it can blossom outward from there. If you start with anything less, you may not have room for anything more.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Behavior, Control, Decisions, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Infidelity, Manipulation, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Values Tagged With: Emotional Abuse, Tolerating Abuse, Untying Selfishness From Personal Boundaries, verbal abuse, When Love Isn't Enough, Will Marriage Fix Dysfunction?

The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
December 18, 2016
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The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect.

Whether you’re starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot path of learning, healing, and growing, there’s always more to learn.

I talk about what it takes to honor your boundaries in a healthy way (instead of waiting until you blow up) and recognize patterns in yourself that may point back to emotional wounds from the past.

What are your results over and over again? Are you succeeding in life or failing miserably?

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Filed Under: Behavior, Beliefs, Control, Decisions, Forgiveness, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Vulnerability Tagged With: Focus on Yourself, The Emotional Healing Journey, To Express or Not To Express

Acting from Integrity – Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth – Knowing When You Are Out of Love – Making the Right Choices

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
May 29, 2016
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A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”

I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time? 

Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’

When do you really know when you’re out of love?

There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Behavior, Decisions, Human Potential, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth, Knowing When You Are Out of Love, Learning how to act from Integrity, Making the Right Choices

The Choice of Growing Closer in a New Long-Distance Relationship

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I’ve done the long-distance dating thing twice, and I will say that both times were a success. Sure, the women I met aren’t in my life anymore but I learned and gained so much from those two long-term relationships.

After the first relationship ended in 2005, I was not ready for another relationship but I looked for one anyway. I figured the true path to happiness was to find someone else to fill the new void in my life (more on that dysfunction shortly). [Read more…]

Filed Under: Behavior, Dating, Decisions, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: How do I know when to get closer in a long-distance relationship?, long distance relationship, Should I stop seeing someone long-dstance?

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