The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

When Love Isn’t Enough – Will Marriage Fix Dysfunction? – Untying Selfishness From Personal Boundaries – Tolerating Abuse

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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
January 29, 2017

Is love enough? Will it overcome anything that happens in your life?

Financial struggles, family problems, arguments, abuse, and more… will your faith in love be enough to get you through the tough times? I read a letter from a young man who wonders if love is enough to get through anything. To add a bit of challenge on top of that, what if that love is only one-sided?

 
Love is supporting the other person’s path and wanting them to be happy. When you start with that, it can blossom outward from there. If you start with anything less, you may not have room for anything more.

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
December 18, 2016

The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect.

Whether you’re starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot path of learning, healing, and growing, there’s always more to learn.

I talk about what it takes to honor your boundaries in a healthy way (instead of waiting until you blow up) and recognize patterns in yourself that may point back to emotional wounds from the past.

What are your results over and over again? Are you succeeding in life or failing miserably?

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing Personal Growth with Relationship Growth – Knowing When You Are Out of Love – Making the Right Choices

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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
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Acting from Integrity – Balancing personal growth with relationship growth – Knowing when you are out of love – Making the right choices
May 29, 2016

A listener calls me out and tells me, “You couldn’t take a couple of minutes to answer me personally?”

I read her message on the air and respond to it. I always do my best to act from a place of integrity but did I mess up this time? 

Also, I received an email from someone in a relationship that may not work out. She wants to know how to balance her own personal growth with the work she’s done in her relationship (and not ruin that work). And she also wants to know if she’s done everything she can do before leaving the relationship. ‘Have I turned the last “Falling out of love” stone before I completely give in to the truth?’

When do you really know when you’re out of love?

There’s also another segment on how an Adult Child of an Alcoholic can trust themselves after living a life without it. Self-trust is a process and there is a way to have it again.

The Choice of Growing Closer in a New Long-Distance Relationship

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I’ve done the long-distance dating thing twice, and I will say that both times were a success. Sure, the women I met aren’t in my life anymore but I learned and gained so much from those two long-term relationships.

After the first relationship ended in 2005, I was not ready for another relationship but I looked for one anyway. I figured the true path to happiness was to find someone else to fill the new void in my life (more on that dysfunction shortly). [Read more…]

What’s Missing In My Life?

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If you don’t know what’s missing in your life, then you’ve been asking yourself the wrong question.

Perhaps you should ask “What’s present in my life that’s preventing me from getting what’s missing in my life?”

It may sound like an odd way to ask the question but the way you phrase questions to yourself will dictate how you think about everything. And if you change the way you think, you can change your results.

When you don’t know what’s missing, you don’t know what to focus on to obtain what’s missing. So maybe it’s time to change the questions you ask yourself.

“What’s missing in my life?”

No… How about: “What is in my life right now that, if it were missing, would help me get what I need to feel happy?”

How your phrase your language changes how you think about a problem.

The above question sounds weird on purpose. And in order to understand it, you need to reach inside yourself a little deeper than you normally would. This will help you access your innermost resources that will help you come up with a solution.

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