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Find the Right Teacher – When everything fails and nothing works out

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Find the Right Teacher – Everything is failing, nothing is working out
Find the Right Teacher – Everything is failing, nothing is working out
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Find the Right Teacher – Everything is failing, nothing is working out
February 25, 2018

Have you ever listened to a motivational speaker and decided that you were going to make huge changes in your life – then a couple of days after the seminar, you lost all your motivation?

This has happened to me at least three times in my life. It took me several years to realize that motivation is a great short-term solution but a terrible long-term strategy.

What’s the fire underneath that needs to be burning in order for you to follow through with the huge changes you want to make in your life? In segment one of this episode, I talk about motivation and what it takes to really start creating change in your life. (Hint: It’s not about attending more motivational seminars).

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When You Haven’t Achieved Life Goals Yet – Walking the Line Between Partner and Consoler – Waiting for Your Ex to Return to the Relationship

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When You Haven’t Achieved Life Goals Yet – Walking the Line Between Partner and Consoler – Waiting for Your Ex to Return to the Relationship
When You Haven’t Achieved Life Goals Yet – Walking the Line Between Partner and Consoler – Waiting for Your Ex to Return to the Relationship
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When You Haven’t Achieved Life Goals Yet – Walking the Line Between Partner and Consoler – Waiting for Your Ex to Return to the Relationship
May 28, 2017

What happens when you reach that age where you thought you would have accomplished certain things in life but are nowhere close to what you set out to do 10, 20, 30, or more years ago? Do you get depressed? Do you have a mid-life crisis?

Or… maybe you see that there’s a bigger plan in the works for your life. If that’s too spiritual a view for you, perhaps it’s time to come to terms with your fears and accept realities you don’t want to accept.

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Holding on to regrets and resentments – What is healthy communication? – When it can’t get any worse

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Holding on to regrets and resentments – What is healthy communication? – When it can’t get any worse
Holding on to regrets and resentments – What is healthy communication? – When it can’t get any worse
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Holding on to regrets and resentments – What is healthy communication? – When it can’t get any worse
May 7, 2017

What resentments or regrets are you holding on to?

Sometimes years can go by while you keep a firm grasp of what causes you stress simply because you can’t let go of the idea that you could have made different choices in life.

Or, could you have made different choices or taken a different direction in your life? If so, why didn’t you? Sounds like an important topic to discuss. [Read more…]

What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems

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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
April 16, 2017

Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.

Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.

In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.

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Pondering the Choice to Commit Suicide

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Image still from the music video on childhood sexual abuse: “Fiona” by Asha Lightbearer

The following article is for educational purposes only and may not reflect the view of the medical or therapeutic community. Always seek professional guidance when it comes to your physical and mental health.

You usually don’t discuss suicidal thoughts with others. And because of that, they fester inside. Often the people around you have no clue what’s going on with you until it’s too late.

I personally don’t believe suicidal thoughts in themselves are necessarily unhealthy. In fact, I believe they can be a good way to use your brain the way it was designed:

To consider all outcomes of a situation, good, bad and ugly. Your brain appreciates that it has a choice. 

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