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Losing Your Identity in the Relationship – The Brilliant, Worthy You – Exes as Friends – The Right Partner

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Nurturing yourself while you’re in a relationship decreases the impact breaking up has if and when it happens. The more you keep the connection with yourself and don’t lose a part of you in the relationship, the healthier you stay. You lose your identity in a relationship when you don’t nurture yourself.

When family doesn’t honor you and see your worth, sometimes you just have to distance yourself from them so that you reconnect with a brilliant, worthy you. Not everyone is capable of seeing what you are, so it’s important to continue nurturing and supporting yourself as if you were your own child or best friend.

When your partner has a friend who is also an ex, how do you feel about that? Do they talk all the time? Do they have to communicate because of shared custody of children? Do they communicate more than you’d like? It’s important to understand where your line is and when your partner is crossing it. Otherwise, their ex becomes a part of your relationship, which can be damaging if you’re not all good friends, to begin with.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Behavior, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: How do I find the right partner?, I don't know who I am without someone else in my life, I feel worthless and have low self-esteem, Is is okay to have an ex as a friend?

The Plight of the People-Pleaser

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People-pleasers appear to be very thoughtful. They will do everything they can to make sure those they love (and even those they don’t) are happy.

At first, this sounds like the ideal person to have in your life! After all, if they are set out to make you happy, who could ask for anything more?

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Filed Under: Behavior, Codependency, Dysfunction, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: How to stop being a people pleaser, people pleasing, What are people pleasers?, Why is it bad to be a people pleaser?

Weaning Off Toxic People

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What if the person you’re with is toxic, but you have a belief that they are the best you can get?

What if you’re stuck in a relationship you don’t like, but stick around anyway because you think you’ll never find anything better, so what’s the point?

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Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Control, Emotional Abuse, Family, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships, Toxic Behavior, Toxic People Tagged With: How to get away from toxic people, Toxic People, Toxic Relationships, Unhealthy Marriage

Is It Too Late To Save The Relationship?

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learn heal climb out of dysfunction marriage

You made it. The conditions were rough yet you still accomplished what seemed like an impossible climb out of your own dysfunction in your relationship.

You went through all the healing, growing, learning, and evolving you could, and may have even given your partner the ultimatum to shape up or ship out so that your relationship had no choice but to shift into something new or fall apart completely.

You’ll never go back to the way it was. Is the relationship now “saved”?

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Filed Under: Codependency, Divorce, enabling, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: end of the relationship, growth, healing, how to know it's over, is my relationship doomed to fail?, marriage

How to Deal with Highly Defensive People

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Highly defensive people are very sensitive to certain subjects causing them to go into a sort of fight or flight response. After all, why jump into a defensive posture unless you think there’s a threat? 

The threat is typically not realistic, but that’s only an outsider’s perspective because to the person with the defensive behavior, the threat could be very real to them. But what exactly are they threatened by?

I received a letter from a listener that was dealing with a defensive person at work. Her coworker would get very defensive whenever anyone would talk about “controversial subjects” around her. The letter writer didn’t tell me exactly which controversial subjects were being discussed, but I could only assume that they were the typical ones that most people have a very staunch opinion on. 

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Filed Under: anger, Behavior, Beliefs, Conflict, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries Tagged With: Always so argumentative, defensive people, My partner is always overreacting to everything, Why is he so defensive all the time?

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