The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you

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Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
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Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you
April 5, 2020

Can you get back up after a big fall? If you’re struggling to do so, your foundation may not be as stable as you’d hoped.

The components that make up your life: Your job, your family, your home, the city you live in, your car, etc, all have some sort of meaning or value to you. When you start to let go that which no longer serves you, you start to free yourself from the toxic components.

What do you value and what gives you heartburn every time you think about it? Sometimes removing one small thing from your life can make a big change.

Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?

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Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
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Should you be more tolerant of bad behavior when they can’t control themselves?
July 25, 2021

Sometimes we can’t help ourselves. Anger can come out of the blue and suddenly, we’re hurting someone we care about. 

I received an email from someone who believes that sometimes you need people in your life to understand that you are going to get upset now and again, and they should be empathetic for your inability to control it. They have ADHD and have a challenge controlling the emotions that come up. 

What is the solution? Should those you love be more tolerant of hurtful behavior or should they put you in your place, telling you to stop or else?

When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it

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When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
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When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can’t get it
April 19, 2020

You know that feeling you get when someone does something that surprises you in a bad way but they don’t tell you why they did it?

When you aren’t given the reason for their behavior, you may walk around with that unfinished business feeling. It’s the feeling you get when you really want to move on from an event in your life but just can’t stop obsessing on why they did what they did. 

It’s a tough place to be, but it needs to be resolved if you’re going to move on and enjoy life again. 

Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?

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Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?
Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?
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Is it always necessary to dive into the past to heal old traumas?
May 30, 2021
How to heal old trauma without diving into the past

Where should you start when it comes to healing old stuff from the past? Should you do a deep dive into your childhood, bringing up all kinds of memories and traumas that you may or may not have repeated to therapists over and over again?

Or should you talk about how it bothers you today and see if someone can help you gain a new perspective? What about skipping over the trauma and just looking at what behavior came out of it?

There’s a path you can take to reverse old emotional triggers just by doing something different to get a different result. If it sounds too easy, then you definitely need to listen to this episode.