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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
August 5, 2018

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

Are you capable of emotional abuse?

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Are you capable of emotional abuse?
Are you capable of emotional abuse?
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Are you capable of emotional abuse?
May 13, 2018

Would you know if you were being emotionally abusive? There is a question you can ask yourself to determine if you are being emotionally abusive or not.

Once you know the question, you can change how you communicate with anyone.

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    Important: If you are hurting someone you care about and want to change that about yourself while also giving your relationship the best chance at healing, click here to start your free lessons right away with the Healed Being course.

    For more on emotional abuse, control, and manipulation in relationships, visit loveandabuse.com.

    When you feel unlovable and unworthy

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    When you feel unlovable and unworthy
    When you feel unlovable and unworthy
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    When you feel unlovable and unworthy
    April 15, 2018

    If you’ve ever come out of a relationship feeling unlovable and unworthy, it’s time to consider the source of this false belief and how you are sabotaging yourself for future relationships.

    Also, I read an email about conditional versus unconditional love and just what makes up love anyway.

    Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation

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    Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation
    Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation
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    Controlling upset toward others – Feeding dysfunctional people – Full commitment then re-evaluation
    February 18, 2018

    When you get angry, frustrated or upset toward someone else, how quickly do you recover? Would you like to recover faster and get into a better space?

    In segment one, I go over the five questions you can ask yourself that might just bring you out of the bad feeling you’re in. For segment two, I share how you might be feeding the dysfunctions of others in your life. If you feed someone else’s dysfunction, they’ll continue to show up in a way you don’t like over and over again.

    In segment three, I talk about commitment and how just because you signed up for life, doesn’t mean you have to see it through – especially if the person you’re with has changed the rules and isn’t keeping up with their end of the bargain.

    10 Steps to Keep Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction

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    If your relationship has gone through its ups and downs but is now on a good path to prosper, you’ll probably want to keep it that way.

    Here are ten steps you can take to make sure your relationship stays healthy and continues to blossom. For more of an in-depth look at each step, listen to the episode attached to this post. 

    Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

    If you are currently in a relationship with someone whose dysfunctions are hurtful to you, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

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