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Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Guilt stops growth – Dad’s new girlfriend – Enabling the freeloader

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Guilt stops growth – Dad’s new girlfriend – Enabling the freeloader
Guilt stops growth – Dad’s new girlfriend – Enabling the freeloader
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Guilt stops growth – Dad’s new girlfriend – Enabling the freeloader
October 8, 2017
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When you feel guilty for wanting to leave your partner because of their bad behavior, it’s time to transform that guilt into something more productive. Some partner’s set you up to feel guilty so you’ll never leave. This is called emotional abuse and it’s time to put a stop to it.

In segment two, I read a message from a woman who lost her mom. A few months later her dad wanted to be with someone new. His daughter didn’t like that at all and cannot get past that he could possibly do that so soon.

What happens when you lose a parent and the one left behind wants to date again? Can you support them or are you vehemently against it?

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All those years wasted with your ex – When hope works against you – What’s under the stream of negative emotions

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All those years wasted with your ex – When hope works against you – Under the stream of negative emotions
June 11, 2017
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How can you possibly forget that one ex who “wasted” years of your life? How can you possibly forgive them, either?

In the first segment of this episode, I read a letter from someone who married a big problem and now she is upset at him for “stealing” so many years of her life. She wants to forgive and move on but can’t seem to do it.

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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship

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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
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Breaking Through Obsessive Thoughts – Is Everyone Toxic? – The Real Issue in the Relationship
February 19, 2017
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When obsessive and intrusive thoughts won’t go away, what can you do?

You might feel better knowing that won’t mean a thing in a hundred years, but if resolving them isn’t that easy for you, then let me take you through a series of steps that break them apart and repackage them in a way that might just help you deal with yours.

In this segment, I’ll ask you what’s wrong with having obsessive thoughts, why are they a problem, and if there’s anything you can do about what you’re obsessing over. I’ll also talk about your resistance to them and how it causes you to suffer. If you have been suffering from that negative internal dialogue, listen to this episode.

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself

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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
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The Emotional Healing Journey – To Express or Not To Express – Focus on Yourself
December 18, 2016
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The emotional healing journey consists of many ups and downs. A listener asks me how I managed to get through my journey and what I can share with others on what to expect.

Whether you’re starting your healing journey from scratch or still on a hot path of learning, healing, and growing, there’s always more to learn.

I talk about what it takes to honor your boundaries in a healthy way (instead of waiting until you blow up) and recognize patterns in yourself that may point back to emotional wounds from the past.

What are your results over and over again? Are you succeeding in life or failing miserably?

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Is It Selfish or Self-Sustaining? – The Mom Who Wasn’t There – Obsession About Partner’s History

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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
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Selfish or self-sustaining? – The mom who wasn’t there for me – Obsession about my partner’s history
November 13, 2016
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What is acceptable to you, and what is not?
What is considered self-sustaining, and what is selfish?

I read an email from someone who’s in a constant battle in his mind, unsure if he’s honoring his personal boundaries or just being completely self-serving. He also gets into a debate and overanalyzes to the point of indecision.

There’s a way to decide, and it involves the question: What what you do if you were completely fearless or unafraid of the consequences?

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