Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
What are the steps you need to take to figure out the challenges that come into your life? Is there a process?
Would you know what questions to ask if someone you know shared that they were going through some challenges?
Join Matthew Bivens and I as we talk about our process of discovering issues and how to dig down through the layers.
Stonewalling is damaging to a relationship and can make it fail if whatever is shut down is never brought up to be resolved. If you give your partner the silent treatment, you need to hear this segment. In segment two, I talk about expectations in friendships. Should friendships be an equal, two-way street or can there be imbalance where one person does all the work and the other just lets them do it?
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In this multi-faceted episode, I’ll talk about how bullies love when you react negatively and what to do to squash the energy behind their bullying.
This is from a letter from a kid who got bullied in school and was humiliated to the point where he didn’t want to go back. Adopting a “who cares?” attitude can be very helpful in situations like this.
In the second segment, I talk about someone with an irrational boss. What do you do when your boss is completely crazy? The lizard brain kicks in, and you can react like a human, or perhaps what really needs to happen is for you to react like another lizard!
I also talk about spirituality in this episode, something I rarely talk about on this show. When the trauma is too much, and you can’t get beyond it, maybe spirituality is a factor in healing. After all, when even the worst events in life have a positive meaning of some sort, it can surely help get beyond the pain and other negative feelings.
Finally, I discuss enabling and empowerment. This episode is packed.
What kind of response do you get when you need to honor yourself with someone by saying “no” to them? I had to do this once with a business partner, and it was one of the hardest things to do.
It wasn’t just a “No, I can’t help you”, it was a, “Hey, I know we’ve been planning a project together for over a month and a half now, and I know we’re going to have a conference call about it on Sunday, but I need to bow out now. I realize I’m fifty percent of the project, and that without me, you really won’t be able to finish it, at least in a short amount of time, but I have to back out.”
I’ll tell you, it was hard to click send on that email. It was an email instead of a phone call because I really wanted to word my message so it conveyed all my thoughts without interruption.
In a live call or conversation, you could say one word and the entire conversation could go into an emotional spiral. Tempers can flare and your message may never get heard. The only thing that might be conveyed is that you are abandoning them. [Read more…]
