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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools

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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
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When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools
August 5, 2018

Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.

When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.

In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.

The Top 10 Components of a Satisfying, Healthy, and Happy Relationship

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A romantic relationship is supposed to bring you happiness. It’s supposed to be healthy, satisfying, and especially loving.

If your relationship is suffering in any of those areas, maybe it’s not the right relationship for you. Or maybe you just don’t know what to do to make it any better.

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Learning the process of figuring out problems

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Learning the process of figuring out problems
Learning the process of figuring out problems
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Learning the process of figuring out problems
May 6, 2018

What are the steps you need to take to figure out the challenges that come into your life? Is there a process?

Would you know what questions to ask if someone you know shared that they were going through some challenges?

Join Matthew Bivens and I as we talk about our process of discovering issues and how to dig down through the layers.

The Fish Who Taught Compassion

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Since I moved in with my girlfriend in 2015, I’ve been feeding our fish, Flash, every morning. She says I feed him too much which is why he is so much larger than when I first moved in. I say he got larger because we got a bigger tank.

This debate may go on for years!

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Eliminating Negative Memories – The Yin Yang of Masculine and Feminine – Emotional Detachment

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Eliminating Negative Memories, the Yin Yang of Masculine and Feminine, and Emotional Detachment
Eliminating Negative Memories, the Yin Yang of Masculine and Feminine, and Emotional Detachment
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Eliminating Negative Memories, the Yin Yang of Masculine and Feminine, and Emotional Detachment
November 8, 2015

Segment one: Our emotions are attached to our memories. Our memories are attached to people and stuff. It’s that stuff that we hold on to that sometimes makes us feel bad, so why do we still have it in our lives? Pictures are a great example of this. Why keep pictures that make you feel bad?

Segment two: In any relationship, the role of masculine is typically played by one person and the role of the feminine is played by the other. The problem occurs when one person likes the role they’re in and the other doesn’t. Knowing your role and what best works for the relationship will create a harmonious get-together as opposed to one of conflict.

Segment three: In this final segment, I talk a bit about detaching from your emotions. Being emotionally detached can make your partner think that you don’t love them which can be one of the worst feelings in the world.

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