The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

What Emotionally Abusive Communication Looks Like

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The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships, and I just don’t see too many other types.

Back around 2010, I realized I was a manipulative person for most of my life. I used masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me.

In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for all of the heartaches that kept appearing in my life.

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The Relationship You Have With Yourself – Wanting The Anxiety To Go Away – Enabling Abusive People

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The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people
The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people
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The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people
May 8, 2016
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When we talk to ourselves, we really are communicating with a deeper, subconscious part of us that has within it an understanding of what really motivates us in life.

Sometimes we don’t want to communicate with a part of ourselves that feels the pain, but if we don’t, that part feels neglected, lonely, hurt, and rejected, and more.

Also, is there a path out of generalized or health anxiety? Does it ever end? There are times when anxious thoughts can help you achieve your goals, then there is the anxiety that we don’t want.

Finally, I discuss abusive people that we continue to let return to our lives over and over again. Are they abusing us, or are we just abusing ourselves?

Stop anxiety when it starts with The S.A.F.E. Empowerment System

The Process of Self-Sabotage – You Don’t Have to Forgive Everyone – Anxiety All The Time

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The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
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The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
May 1, 2016
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Why do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backward.

Sometimes you are not in alignment with a bigger vision for yourself. The reason is that you might actually have a value hidden under the surface that you didn’t even know was there. I talk about this self-sabotaging behavior in segment one of this episode.

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Do You Control Fate – Recovering From The Lies You’ve Told – You Can Spot a Fake Laugh and inauthentic behavior

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Do You Control Fate – Recovering From The Lies You’ve Told – You Can Spot a Fake Laugh and inauthentic behavior
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Do You Control Fate – Recovering From The Lies You’ve Told – You Can Spot a Fake Laugh and inauthentic behavior
October 11, 2015
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Is fate what we make or what we create? In segment one, I talk about a quote from Carl Jung on this very topic.

Today’s listener email has to do with being caught in a lie with family and what to do in the aftermath. It’s an interesting listen in segment two.

For segment three, I talk about spotting fake or forced laughter. In the final segment, I share my thoughts about a very dysfunctional family member of mine who’s trying to worm his way back into my family’s lives but is having a heck of a time getting any cooperation (hint, it’s my stepfather).

The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship – Part 2

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A satisfying, loving relationship doesn’t have to be hard, but there are components that need to be included in this type of relationship in order for things to work out well. This is part 2 of a 2-part episode where we talk about the last 5 components.

If you’re still not satisfied with your relationships after listening to part 1, then this episode should wrap things up quite nicely.  [Read more…]