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Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself

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The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
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The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
September 10, 2017

Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?

In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships and a couple of ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.

For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time?

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See me, Judge me – The Distant Partner with the Needy Partner – Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?

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See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
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See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
August 20, 2017

Four topics in this episode: A listener calls me smug and superior, a woman with emotional needs is seeing a man with intimacy issues, a listener can’t stop oversharing her life with complete strangers and I talk about what it means to go full no contact from your ex. 

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Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier

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Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
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Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
August 13, 2017

Do you trust your gut? Do you want to?

In segment one, I share how I almost got conned by a store clerk and how I used my instinct to keep from getting deceived (and calling him out at the same time).

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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old

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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
July 16, 2017

Honoring your boundaries can be the hardest step to take in your personal development, and it’s also one of the fastest ways to start creating a life without toxicity and dysfunction. But what if you’re too scared to do it?

Getting to a place where fear goes away isn’t easy – it can take a lot of inner growth, leading to the confidence and courage to do whatever it takes to let others know what is acceptable and what is not. [Read more…]

Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction

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Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
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Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
July 9, 2017

Comparing yourself to other people is the fastest way to low self-worth and low self-esteem.

Why do we always compare ourselves to people that are better looking, wealthier, healthier, and have more success in areas of life that we are still working on? It seems like a black hole of misery that will never end.

In segment one, I talk about one of my good friends who is self-employed and wondering why she isn’t succeeding after a few months of what I see has been a very successful time for her. She is comparing her success to those that have been in the business for a long time and that comparison is making her feel down.

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