Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Hurtful people do a really good job of causing us to feel bad about ourselves.
Not only that, we end up repeating what they said or did to us in our mind over and over again. The emotional trauma can last for months or years.
In this episode I help transform the hurtful messages from others into empowering declarations that help us move on see them for who they really are.
I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.
I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.
Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.
[Read more…]Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.
When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.
In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.
People see us differently than we see ourselves. The problem isn’t when we think we’re better than others perceive us, it’s when we don’t believe people who say good things about us.
When you find yourself throwing away compliments in place of beliefs and self-perceptions that aren’t true, you stay in a self-perpetuating cycle of negativity and may never get out until you are ready to give up that sometimes you are just plain wrong.
There is a path out of the rut of depression, feeling unworthy, unlovable, stupid, and any of a number of other thoughts and feelings that can permeate your life.
If you’re in that miserable, stuck state, this episode may be a path to a door that shines the light on the dark.
