The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

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They love you but don’t like to say it – Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex – You can manipulate but should you

Segment 1: Is it hard for you or your partner to say I love you?

Sometimes the past can play an important role to prevent or encourage those words to come out of someone’s mouth. If the love is there but the words aren’t, it doesn’t always mean there is no love. [Read more…]

Guilt stops growth – Dad’s new girlfriend – Enabling the freeloader

When you feel guilty for wanting to leave your partner because of their bad behavior, it’s time to transform that guilt into something more productive. Some partner’s set you up to feel guilty so you’ll never leave. This is called emotional abuse and it’s time to put a stop to it.

In segment two, I read a message from a woman who lost her mom. A few months later her dad wanted to be with someone new. His daughter didn’t like that at all and cannot get past that he could possibly do that so soon.

What happens when you lose a parent and the one left behind wants to date again? Can you support them or are you vehemently against it?

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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies

How do you handle negative feedback? There’s a golden opportunity to sink or swim when someone puts you down. Their comments don’t have to equal pain and a hit on your self-worth or self-esteem.

In fact, maybe it’s possible that the one person you remember putting you down is the very impetus you needed to improve something about yourself.

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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers

Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and/or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are.

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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems

Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.

Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.

In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.

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