Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
The email was anonymous so I had no information on her whatsoever. In fact, she made sure to conceal anything that identified her, probably so I wouldn’t just pick up the phone and call 911.
But I wouldn’t have done that anyway. Of course, she didn’t know that.
In fact, her letter to me was, in her words, a “last-ditch effort”.
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Segment one: Our emotions are attached to our memories. Our memories are attached to people and stuff. It’s that stuff that we hold on to that sometimes makes us feel bad, so why do we still have it in our lives? Pictures are a great example of this. Why keep pictures that make you feel bad?
Segment two: In any relationship, the role of masculine is typically played by one person and the role of the feminine is played by the other. The problem occurs when one person likes the role they’re in and the other doesn’t. Knowing your role and what best works for the relationship will create a harmonious get-together as opposed to one of conflict.
Segment three: In this final segment, I talk a bit about detaching from your emotions. Being emotionally detached can make your partner think that you don’t love them which can be one of the worst feelings in the world.
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Today’s episode is on self-compassion, which is what you give to yourself when you stop being overly giving.
This raises the question: Can you be too much of a giver?
Also in this episode, I talk about a listener email I received from someone who asked if it’s possible to fear happiness. He seems to have the “perfect life”, but still fears being as happy as he can be. These two subjects go hand in hand, and really come down to a way of honoring yourself as you’ve never done before. [Read more…]
Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.
Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.
Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.
Your self-worth starts when you interpret what your parents or caretakers think about you. If you interpret that they don’t value you, you don’t value yourself.
As the years go by, your self-esteem builds from your level of self-worth. If you have low self-worth as a child, you have low self-esteem as an adult. It’s time to rebuild both so that you don’t have so much fear and insecurity in your life.
Also, I read an email from a listener who is struggling between being a child and an adult in different situations. It’s constantly stressing him out and he can’t seem to step into that adult role when needed.
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