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10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 2

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Part 1 here.

So many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last, or better. The day to day can be fulfilling, or it can be grueling. If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level not getting fulfilled.

If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This article covers lessons five through ten, and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself. [Read more…]

10 Life Lessons You Should Already Know – Part 1

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life lessonsSo many of us simply live day to day, trying to make the next day as good as the last or better. The day-to-day can be fulfilling, or it can be grueling.

If it’s the latter, it’s possible that there is a primal need at your deepest level not getting fulfilled. If that’s the case, it will be harder to attain the peace and balance you may be looking for.

This article covers the first five of the lessons and helps you understand what you may need to focus on to create a happier life for yourself. [Read more…]

Codependency: The Subtle Erosion of Love and Connection

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Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them.

You’ll often see this kind of dynamic between several different types of people:

  • The Rescuer and the Addict
  • The People-Pleaser and the Abuser
  • The Highly Sensitive and the Insensitive

There are many more types and they all have a complimentary nature to them. Recognizing them is usually fairly easy as well. Just look for someone who seems to give a lot to the relationship but never receives enough. Toxic relationships such as this almost always build resentment because the giver becomes tired of always trying to satisfy the needs of the taker. 

It’s the perfect imbalance of love and energy.

No matter what type of codependent relationship it is, the theme is usually the same: The dysfunctional behavior of one person supports the dysfunctional behavior of another.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

If you are currently in a relationship with someone who is codependent and is hurtful to you, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

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Dealing With the Victim Mentality

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There are true victims in the world, then there are chronic complainers who keep themselves in a victimized state closing the door to progress, healing and growth.

It could have started in childhood or sprung up when they were older, but those who have a victim mentality know one thing for sure: Nothing ever works out for them.

This belief system keeps them in a rut and prevents them from seeing options that could be right in front of them.

Are you or someone you know a self-perpetuating victim? 

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Empowerment Through Vulnerability

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vulnerabilityEmotions rise up from our core, where we are both most vulnerable and powerful. When we can live from this core place inside of us we can be authentic. When that happens we are empowered to be our true selves.

Align your thoughts and feelings with your behavior and you have a recipe for true success in your life.  [Read more…]