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The Toxic Episode – Toxic Relationships, Validating Toxic Friends, Enabling Toxic Behavior

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Toxic relationships: Friends, family, coworkers, and more – What can you do if you can’t get away from them? Do you even know how to get away from them? How can you continue a relationship when you have no choice but to be with a toxic person? This episode gets into how to deal with toxic people in your life.

Also, I read what a reviewer said about my show: Stay Away! 

What do you think, should you stay away? I’m not here to defend the show or tell you what to listen to, I’d rather you come to your own conclusion and make the decision from there. I’m honored when someone takes the time to provide reviews for the show, even bad ones, it tells me they actually care about their own personal growth and want the best for themselves. Plus, they are genuinely expressing themselves, something I promote and encourage everyone to do!

How Do Your Personal Values Affect Your Work?

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What you value in life overflows into your business, relationships and everything else. I’ve talked about values before, but I dive in a little deeper as a guest on Amber Hurdle’s excellent show “Bombshell Business Podcast” where I talk about getting in alignment with your personal values to create business success.

Join Amber and I as I walk her through my process of getting focused about what path to take with her business.

Once you know your values, decisions are a lot easier to make. If you’d like to go through my process of getting into alignment with your values, download the Stop Self-Sabotage workbook today!

Starting the Healing Process From Child Sexual Abuse

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In this special episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I talk with abuse survivor, songwriter, and my partner, Asha Lightbearer, about the realizations of her sexual abuse and what you can do to start your healing today.

If you aren’t a childhood sexual abuse survivor, you know one.

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may not even be aware that they are a survivor. I had no clue that what I went through as a child, the trauma of receiving an enema at seven years old was considered a sexual violation. It was prescribed by a doctor and administered by a member of my family, so it sounded like a completely legitimate medical procedure that should have only caused a minor discomfort.

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Measuring Your Worth and Esteem – Jealous and Insecure in the Relationship

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Self-esteem stems from the level of self-worth you have about yourself. How do you raise either or both so that you can walk through life confidently and assert yourself when needed?

There’s “street knowledge” then there’s book (academic) knowledge. Street Knowledge is having real-world experience. Book knowledge is when you know what to do but don’t necessarily know how to do it, or have the courage to do it.

In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from a jealous husband who doesn’t like it when other people look at his wife. He can’t figure out how to get past these feelings.

Insecurities abound in this segment so it’s a great segue from the last one. There’s a little bit of ego involved, a leap of faith, and a lot of trust that may need to be built up in order to allow the jealousy to go away.

The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate

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The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate
The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate
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The Silent Treatment – The Drawbacks of Non-Confrontational Behavior – Permission to Hate
October 2, 2016

The silent treatment is like an acid that disintegrates trust and love because of the withdrawal of emotions (emotional withdrawal). It’s hard to trust someone who gives you the silent treatment because when they withdraw, you might feel betrayed and abandoned.

I also talk about the drawbacks of non-confrontational behavior and how choosing not to confront disintegrates love and bonding. When you choose to be non-confrontational, it’s like telling the other person “I don’t want to tell you the whole truth”.

And what about hate? Are you allowed to feel hate? Should you? I think it’s important to acknowledge and accept every part of you and every thought instead of resisting your thoughts. Otherwise, you go around holding on to a lot of negativity which you eventually unleash on those you love.

Tune into the Love and Abuse podcast to help you learn how to navigate difficult relationships