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8 Steps to Becoming the Ultimate People-Pleaser

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If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this article is for you.

As a former people-pleaser, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.

Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills by reading this article.

This article is meant to be tongue-in-cheek but also contains an important reminder about how people-pleasing almost always leads to unhappiness.

Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:

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Filed Under: anger, Behavior, Codependency, Depression, Dysfunction, enabling, Family, Insecurity, Negative Emotions, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Behavior Tagged With: How do I stop people pleasing?, Is people pleasing bad?, What is people pleasing?

Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts, and more!

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Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
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Self-help variety – Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!
December 23, 2018
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In this episode of The Overwhelmed Brain podcast, I  answer several questions ranging from overcoming jealousy, people that impose their values on you, what affects your self-worth and self-esteem, getting over insecurities about body comments, letting go of intrusive, distressing thoughts, expressing yourself and more!

It’s the variety episode on emotional intelligence. I hope you get a lot of value from it. 

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Insecurity, Jealousy, Judgment, Rejection, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking, Values Tagged With: distressing thoughts, Getting over insecurity about body comments, intrusive thoughts, Overcoming Jealousy, self help

Living life on your terms

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Living life on your terms
Living life on your terms
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Living life on your terms
November 25, 2018
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How many decisions do you make in your life that are actually based on what you want instead of how someone else will respond?

Sometimes it takes a swift kick in the emotional behind to get moving on your decisions so that you can get out of the emotional rut of trying to please others while losing yourself.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Codependency, Communication, Decisions, Desires, Motivation, People Pleaser, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: better decision making, living life on your terms

Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment

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Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
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Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment
September 30, 2018
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Hurtful people do a really good job of causing us to feel bad about ourselves.

Not only that, we end up repeating what they said or did to us in our mind over and over again. The emotional trauma can last for months or years.

In this episode I help transform the hurtful messages from others into empowering declarations that help us move on see them for who they really are.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Healthy Thinking, Identity, Insecurity, Judgment, Podcast Episode, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking, Toxic People, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: stop believing hurtful people, transforming negative self-talk into empowerment

Can You Make Peace with Your Cravings?

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I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.

I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.

Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.

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Filed Under: Addiction, anxiety, Behavior, Codependency, Control, Decisions, Desires, Emotional Eating, Healthy Thinking, Obsession, Physical Health, Regret, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: beating myself up for giving in, I am addicted to sugar, Making peace with your cravings, what's missing in my life?

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