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Getting Control Back – The Small Door Out of Depression – The Unforever Soulmate – Emotionally Disconnected Partners

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Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
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Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
July 3, 2016

It’s a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lie, and what should you do with a secret you are committed to keeping? 

Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting?

There may be. I got a response from a listener who wrote before. They took my advice about her work situation and everything turned out for the better. Controlling bosses no longer drove her mad.

What keeps you at work you don’t like anyway? What’s motivating you to stay miserable?

In another segment, I talk about depression. Why does depression kick in so hard? And why is it so challenging to get back out of it once you’re in it?

No joy, no pain, no feeling at all. Even suicidal thoughts can come into play. Or sometimes you’re so apathetic you don’t even care about that.

In this episode, I talk about a small door, or portal, out of depression.

In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from someone who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s friendship with his ex-girlfriends and hates it when he talks about other girls in general.

And finally, I end the show with a few words on emotionally disconnected people.

Filed Under: Behavior, Control, Depression, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Emotionally Disconnected Partners, Getting Control Back, The Small Door Out of Depression, The Unforever Soulmate

What’s the Point of Life Without Joy and Happiness?

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Inspired by a message from a listener who is in a pretty dark place, I thought I’d tackle the question of finding purpose and meaning in life when you aren’t experiencing joy and happiness. He asked, “What’s the point?”

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Filed Under: Behavior, Beliefs, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Spirituality Tagged With: Learning acceptance, no meaning of life, no purpose in life, resistance, suicide, why am I here?

Closing the Past to Open the Future: Thoughts You Can’t Let Go

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When you have negative thoughts and emotions floating around in your head more often than not, the choices you make going forward in life are going to be influenced.

After all, whatever is swimming around in your head at the time of a decision is what typically affects that decision. If you are carrying around old baggage, it’s time to drop those emotional bags off so that you can create a future without fears or worry. [Read more…]

Filed Under: anger, anxiety, Behavior, childhood, Depression, Dysfunction, Forgiveness, Human Potential, Loneliness, Negative Emotions, Obsession, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking Tagged With: can't stop thinking about the past, emotions, heal from the past, past, releasing, resolving past pain

Codependency: The Subtle Erosion of Love and Connection

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Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them.

You’ll often see this kind of dynamic between several different types of people:

  • The Rescuer and the Addict
  • The People-Pleaser and the Abuser
  • The Highly Sensitive and the Insensitive

There are many more types and they all have a complimentary nature to them. Recognizing them is usually fairly easy as well. Just look for someone who seems to give a lot to the relationship but never receives enough. Toxic relationships such as this almost always build resentment because the giver becomes tired of always trying to satisfy the needs of the taker. 

It’s the perfect imbalance of love and energy.

No matter what type of codependent relationship it is, the theme is usually the same: The dysfunctional behavior of one person supports the dysfunctional behavior of another.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

If you are currently in a relationship with someone who is codependent and is hurtful to you, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

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Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Codependency, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Victim Mentality Tagged With: co-dependency, codependence, codependent husband, codependent relationship, codependent wife, codependent with addict, codependent with alcoholic, people-pleaser

Dealing With the Victim Mentality

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There are true victims in the world, then there are chronic complainers who keep themselves in a victimized state closing the door to progress, healing and growth.

It could have started in childhood or sprung up when they were older, but those who have a victim mentality know one thing for sure: Nothing ever works out for them.

This belief system keeps them in a rut and prevents them from seeing options that could be right in front of them.

Are you or someone you know a self-perpetuating victim? 

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Filed Under: Behavior, Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People, Victim Mentality Tagged With: complaining, drama queen, hypochondriac, victim mentality

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