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The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends

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The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends
The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends
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The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends
August 28, 2016
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Ever have a friend that said “Yeah But…” to every good suggestion you made? How about when they actually ask for your advice, you give it, but they don’t do it because their excuse machine activates?

There are two types of people I talk about in the first segment: “Yeah, But” people, and “Okay, I’ll Try It” people. Sure, there are millions of other types of people out there, but it’s a good start.

Also, I receive a letter from a woman who decided to remove toxic family members from her life and get away from abuse. She took massive first steps, but what’s next? How can you recover from a life of abuse? How can you get to a place beyond where you can relax and feel good again?

Finally, I read another letting about what it might take to reject people in your life. How about those sensitive people that might be hurt by rejection? Is there a way to get away from those who keep showing up when you don’t want them to? Sounds like a great thing to talk about.

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Suicide, Toxic People, Victim Mentality Tagged With: Emotional Abuse, Life After Abuse, Rejecting Former Friends, The Yeah But Mentality, verbal abuse

What Emotionally Abusive Communication Looks Like

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The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships, and I just don’t see too many other types.

Back around 2010, I realized I was a manipulative person for most of my life. I used masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me.

In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for all of the heartaches that kept appearing in my life.

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Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Manipulation, Narcissism, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Worth, Shame Tagged With: guilty, invalidation, manipulation, manipulators, shame

The Relationship You Have With Yourself – Wanting The Anxiety To Go Away – Enabling Abusive People

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The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people
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The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people
May 8, 2016
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When we talk to ourselves, we really are communicating with a deeper, subconscious part of us that has within it an understanding of what really motivates us in life.

Sometimes we don’t want to communicate with a part of ourselves that feels the pain, but if we don’t, that part feels neglected, lonely, hurt, and rejected, and more.

Also, is there a path out of generalized or health anxiety? Does it ever end? There are times when anxious thoughts can help you achieve your goals, then there is the anxiety that we don’t want.

Finally, I discuss abusive people that we continue to let return to our lives over and over again. Are they abusing us, or are we just abusing ourselves?

Stop anxiety when it starts with The S.A.F.E. Empowerment System

Filed Under: abuse, anxiety, Ask Paul, enabling, Family, Human Potential, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Enabling Abusive People, The Relationship You Have With Yourself, Wanting The Anxiety To Go Away

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
March 6, 2016
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Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.

If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself? 

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Filed Under: abuse, anxiety, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Guilt, Human Potential, Infidelity, Loneliness, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: cheating in a marriage, Emotional Abuse, I have an abused mind, verbal abuse, Wanting others to do what you want

The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship – Part 2

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A satisfying, loving relationship doesn’t have to be hard, but there are components that need to be included in this type of relationship in order for things to work out well. This is part 2 of a 2-part episode where we talk about the last 5 components.

If you’re still not satisfied with your relationships after listening to part 1, then this episode should wrap things up quite nicely.  [Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Family, Human Potential, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: empathy, judgment, love, relationship, resentment

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