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What Emotionally Abusive Communication Looks Like

The number of manipulative people in the world is probably a lot higher than you might imagine. Of course, maybe I have that perception because the majority of my clients are in manipulative relationships, and I just don’t see too many other types.

Back around 2010, I realized I was a manipulative person for most of my life. I used masterful communication skills to get my selfish needs met by those closest to me.

In every relationship I’ve ever been in, I found ways to manipulate my partner. It took several breakups and finally a divorce for me to realize that my behavior was the reason for all of the heartaches that kept appearing in my life.

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The Relationship You Have With Yourself – Wanting The Anxiety To Go Away – Enabling Abusive People

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The relationship you have with yourself – Wanting the anxiety to go away – Enabling abusive people

May 8, 2016

When we talk to ourselves, we really are communicating with a deeper, subconscious part of us that has within it an understanding of what really motivates us in life.

Sometimes we don’t want to communicate with a part of ourselves that feels the pain, but if we don’t, that part feels neglected, lonely, hurt, and rejected, and more.

Also, is there a path out of generalized or health anxiety? Does it ever end? There are times when anxious thoughts can help you achieve your goals, then there is the anxiety that we don’t want.

Finally, I discuss abusive people that we continue to let return to our lives over and over again. Are they abusing us, or are we just abusing ourselves?

Stop anxiety when it starts with The S.A.F.E. Empowerment System

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

The 10 Components of a Satisfying, Loving Relationship – Part 2

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A satisfying, loving relationship doesn’t have to be hard, but there are components that need to be included in this type of relationship in order for things to work out well. This is part 2 of a 2-part episode where we talk about the last 5 components.

If you’re still not satisfied with your relationships after listening to part 1, then this episode should wrap things up quite nicely. [Read more…]

The Everyday Bully and Bullying Behavior

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The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior

May 17, 2015

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for.

In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying.

I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.

(modified transcript of this episode follows)

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