Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
When you get that suspicious feeling that a friend, family member, or partner is doing something deceptive, do you investigate further? Or do you take their word when they say nothing is going on?
When that gut instinct kicks in, it’s time to listen and perhaps even dig a little deeper just to get to the truth.
Also in this episode, I revisit values and what steps to take to show yourself love, respect and compassion so that you don’t end up in toxic relationships.
If your partner’s family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do?
When you can’t feel safe in your own relationship because your partner’s priority is his or her own family over you, you may have some hard choices to make. In this episode, Matthew Bivens and I have an emotionally intelligent conversation about an email I received from a woman whose husband shared her personal message to a relative of his.
[Read more…]Segment 1: She caught her husband cheating, he blamed her and her family for the affair.
He used to be loving and supportive. Now that he can’t get his way, he is cold and manipulative. Segment 2: She wants her ex back, but all he wants is sex. She complies but feels empty and lonely without him.
[Read more…]Black or white thinking can lead you to be untrusting of people and the world in general.
If you’ve loved and lost and cannot figure out how to love as deeply as you once did, it could be a general distrust you carry around – seeing people as either safe or not safe. If you cannot be vulnerable, a difficult thing to achieve after pain or betrayal, you may not be able to rebuild the emptiness in your heart.
[Read more…]Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?
In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships and a couple of ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.
For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time?
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