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You hurt me and now I want you to hurt… forever

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You hurt me and now I want you to hurt… forever
You hurt me and now I want you to hurt… forever
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You hurt me and now I want you to hurt… forever
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Some people do not want to forgive and forget. If you’ve ever wronged someone, felt guilty about it, and apologized, but they weren’t able to let it go, will there ever be a chance to make up with them and move on?

When someone is stuck in the past of what you did to them or what they perceived you did to them, they may believe making up is impossible, and you will be the “bad guy” forever.

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Filed Under: Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Guilt, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: They said they hate me forever, They said they'll never forgive me, They want me to hurt for the rest of my life

Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day

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Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
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Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day
May 26, 2019
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Passive-aggressive behavior is a way to convey anger and upset to someone indirectly. It takes the form of comments that are meant to hurt, but hard to spot as hurtful.

Passive-aggressive comments are forms of poisonous communication that can erode love and connection.

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Filed Under: anger, Communication, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Judgment, Lying, Manipulation, Podcast Episode Tagged With: Dealing with passive aggressive behavior, How to deal with someone being passive aggressive

Judgment – The Ultimate Relationship Destroyer

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img-5Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.

This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.

This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.

Judgment truly is the ultimate relationship destroyer. [Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Beliefs, childhood, Control, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Triggers, Emotional Withdrawal, Guilt, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: how to stop judging, Husband is so critical of me, judging in marriage, judging in relationship, judging my wife, Partner is always criticizing me

My Healing Journey from Being an Emotional Abuser

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Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It often hides in the form of feigned helplessness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing the person on the receiving end to become powerless.

Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers.

But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of hidden abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.

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    Filed Under: Abandonment, Blog article, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Healing, Emotional Withdrawal, Empathy, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Relationships, Toxic Behavior, Toxic Thinking Tagged With: Am I emotionally abusive?, Can the emotional abuser change?, how do I stop being emotionally abusive?

    When others make you feel small

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    When others make you feel small
    When others make you feel small
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    When others make you feel small
    October 20, 2019
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    Is it possible to argue with love and respect for the other person? What if they can’t but you can?

    If you ever feel small or are made to feel inferior after an argument with a loved one, it’s time to learn what to do when it goes too far.

    Filed Under: Ask Paul, Communication, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Insecurity, Marriage, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People Tagged With: I always feel afraid during arguments, I feel like I can't defend myself, They make me feel small when we argue

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