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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems

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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
April 16, 2017

Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.

Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.

In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Dysfunction, Fears, Guilt, Human Potential, Loneliness, Loss, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Regret, Rejection, Relationships, Shame Tagged With: Fearing Rejection and Abandonment, Solving All Your Problems, What are Guilt and Shame

Bad Luck and Great Fortune – Stuck with No Way Out – Small Lies and Big Problems – Advice For Life

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When is a bad thing a good thing? When is a good thing bad? How attached are you to outcomes? I share a quick Zen Buddhist parable that might make you think twice about the stressors in the world today, especially with the heated political climate and growing fears of what might happen next.

Not everything is as it appears.

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Filed Under: Ask Paul, Beliefs, Depression, Divorce, Fears, Human Potential, Infidelity, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Thinking, Toxic People, Values Tagged With: Advice For Life, Bad Luck or Great Fortune, Small Lies and Big Problems, When You're Stuck With No Way Out

The Formula for Friendship – Tuning Into the Yellow Flags of Betrayal – Trusting Relationships

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Friendships are created and can last a lifetime, but they can also disintegrate, never to be rekindled.

What makes a friendship? How do you know if your friends are truly the ones that will be there with you and for you through all the good and bad times? In this first segment, I tackle these questions head-on.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Fears, Human Potential, Infidelity, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: The Formula for Friendship, The Yellow Flags of Betrayal, Trusting Relationships

Healing from New Age Thinking – The fears in honoring yourself – The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

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Healing from New Age Thinking – The fears in honoring yourself – The stolen childhood of Adult Children of Alcoholics

In this episode, I talk about positive thinking and bridging the gap between emotions and reason.

In the next segment, when you fear honoring yourself, what can you do? It’s great advice to tell someone: “Just honor your boundaries then you can start creating the life you want!” Which of course is something I say all the time. But what if you are just too afraid to?

In the last segment, I read a letter from an adult child of an alcoholic who felt that his playfulness was stripped away because of the state of fear he lived in growing up in an alcoholic household. 

Filed Under: Ask Paul, childhood, Fears, Human Potential, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Spirituality Tagged With: I feel worse after new age thinking, I'm afraid to honor myself, My childhood was stolen from alcoholics

Kids Humiliating Kids – My Boss is Irrational – Enablers Give Their Dependents a Free Ride – The Meaning of Spirituality

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In this multi-faceted episode, I’ll talk about how bullies love when you react negatively and what to do to squash the energy behind their bullying.

This is from a letter from a kid who got bullied in school and was humiliated to the point where he didn’t want to go back. Adopting a “who cares?” attitude can be very helpful in situations like this.

In the second segment, I talk about someone with an irrational boss. What do you do when your boss is completely crazy? The lizard brain kicks in, and you can react like a human, or perhaps what really needs to happen is for you to react like another lizard!

I also talk about spirituality in this episode, something I rarely talk about on this show. When the trauma is too much, and you can’t get beyond it, maybe spirituality is a factor in healing. After all, when even the worst events in life have a positive meaning of some sort, it can surely help get beyond the pain and other negative feelings.

Finally, I discuss enabling and empowerment. This episode is packed. 

Filed Under: Bullying, childhood, Children, Codependency, enabling, Fears, Friendships, Hate, Humiliation, Spirituality, Toxic People

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