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More self-help variety – The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more

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More self-help variety – The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more
More self-help variety – The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more
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More self-help variety – The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more
December 30, 2018
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Lots more to explore in part two of the self-help variety show. What you are upset about has an origin from the past, exploring that can heal the present.

Do you stand up to your family for your significant other? Is it a good idea? How do you handle apologies and forgiveness? Should you ask for forgiveness?

What happens when you partner’s child doesn’t accept you in their life? What do you do with the feelings of shame and anger around someone’s death? Lots to explore in this New Year’s edition of TOB.

Changing someone’s life – Tackling your insecurities

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Changing someone’s life – Tackling your insecurities
Changing someone’s life – Tackling your insecurities
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Changing someone’s life – Tackling your insecurities
February 11, 2018
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Segment 1: If you want to change someone’s life, sometimes all it takes is a heartfelt “Thank You” or compliment. But not in passing.

A thank you or compliment that makes them stop and process it can be quite powerful. [Read more…]

Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
November 26, 2017
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Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?

It’s not all bad, but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways.

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Obsessing about people – Can your marriage heal if you grow – Online shaming

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Obsessing about people – Can your marriage heal if you grow – Online shaming
Obsessing about people – Can your marriage heal if you grow – Online shaming
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Obsessing about people – Can your marriage heal if you grow – Online shaming
August 27, 2017
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When you obsess about someone you want in your life or someone that broke up with you, what can you do to stop the never-ended thoughts? What about when you go so far as to stalk them and find out everything you can about them?

This is a two-part segment because there’s a lot to talk about. In segment two a woman wants to know if she heals and grows will her husband see that she is better and want to stay in the relationship. However, the husband has been manipulative and unkind to her, letting her know that she’s the one with the problem and she’s the one who needs help.

Can they save their marriage or are they doomed to fail? During the close of the show I talk about Justine Sacco and how her life was ruined because of a misunderstood joke on Twitter.

Public shaming takes the stage in this segment. 

What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems

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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
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What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
April 16, 2017
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Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.

Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.

In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.

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