Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Do you blame everyone else for what happens to you in your life?
In segment one, I argue that even when everything that goes wrong in your life is someone else’s fault, you can still get the results you want by doing one thing: Accepting responsibility for your role in what happens to you.
It’s a new way to create and measure your success so that you can come up with a game plan that’s right for you. [Read more…]
Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.
Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.
In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.
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In the March 5th, 2017 episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I tackled the ultimate challenge: The General Feeling of Unwell Being. Like a cloud of misery that follows you throughout life.
What inspired that episode was a letter I received from a woman who wrote to me that said she went to her workplace counselor who told her: “You have too many problems, we can’t help you.”
WOW!
I received an email from someone who is still obsessed over his ex even though they broke up long ago. Not in a “stalkerish” kind of way, but in a “I’m hurt and can’t stop thinking about her” kind of way. He cries almost daily and can’t get over the loss. According to him, she was everything he wanted in a girl.
He invested his time, energy, and emotions into the relationship, and even though it seemed to be going well, she decided to emotionally close off from him.
Eventually, they split. Since then, he has been unhappy.
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One of the hardest life events to get over is a breakup or loss of someone we love.
When my wife left me, I was devastated. I was completely in shock and had no idea what to do. I actually fell to the floor and cried like a baby. That’s embarrassing to admit, but I’m willing to bet you understand what that’s like.
I felt truly loved and cherished by her. She was someone who finally understood me and loved me unconditionally, and I was losing her. I was angry and sad, and felt like I was being abandoned.
I was in a state of complete hopelessness.
I also came to the conclusion that she didn’t believe in marriage like I did. After all, how could she throw it all away? Why wouldn’t she work harder at this? In my head, I asked her, “Isn’t marriage important to you?” [Read more…]
