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Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?

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Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?
Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?
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Those “think positively” people – Little problems that lead to explosive reactions – What is a toxic person?
October 1, 2017
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If you’re one of those people who repress negativity and put on a smile to hide your upset, you are likely creating negative emotions in your body that will eventually lead to depression. If you aren’t sure what I mean, listen to segment one of today’s episode.

In segment two, I talk about how the little spats in relationships that lead to massive blowups have an origin. The unspoken words are what cause those big explosions. It’s time to connect emotionally rather than logically to diffuse the emotional bombs before they explode.

For segment three, I answer the question: What is toxic? Do we call people toxic just to avoid our own personal growth? A listener challenges me on the topic.

Filed Under: abuse, anger, anxiety, Ask Paul, Control, Depression, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Overwhelm, Physical Health, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking, Toxic People, Victim Mentality Tagged With: Little problems that lead to explosive reactions, Those "think positively" people, What is a toxic person?

The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself

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The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
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The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself
September 10, 2017
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Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?

In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships and a couple of ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.

For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time?

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Filed Under: abuse, anger, Ask Paul, Betrayal, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Infidelity, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sex, Toxic People Tagged With: Blame the cheater not yourself, Lashing out at others, The no-win conversation

See me, Judge me – The Distant Partner with the Needy Partner – Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?

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See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
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See me, Judge me – Is your opinion really that important?- Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
August 20, 2017
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Four topics in this episode: A listener calls me smug and superior, a woman with emotional needs is seeing a man with intimacy issues, a listener can’t stop oversharing her life with complete strangers and I talk about what it means to go full no contact from your ex. 

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Filed Under: Abandonment, abuse, Control, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Judgment, Manipulation, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Emotional Abuse, Judge me, Stop Oversharing, The Distant Partner with the Needy Partner, verbal abuse, What is No Contact?

Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier

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Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
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Trusting Your Gut – Can You Reconcile with Someone You’ve Hurt – Making Decisions Easier
August 13, 2017
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Do you trust your gut? Do you want to?

In segment one, I share how I almost got conned by a store clerk and how I used my instinct to keep from getting deceived (and calling him out at the same time).

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Filed Under: abuse, Control, Deception, Decisions, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Manipulation, Marriage, Obsession, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People Tagged With: Easy way to make decisions, Reconciling with someone you've hurt, trusting your instincts

So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old

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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old
July 16, 2017
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Honoring your boundaries can be the hardest step to take in your personal development, and it’s also one of the fastest ways to start creating a life without toxicity and dysfunction. But what if you’re too scared to do it?

Getting to a place where fear goes away isn’t easy – it can take a lot of inner growth, leading to the confidence and courage to do whatever it takes to let others know what is acceptable and what is not. [Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Fears, Human Potential, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Fear stopping you, starting anew or waiting for things to change, unavoidable people

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