The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

The no-win conversation – Lashing out at others – Blame the cheater not yourself

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Does your partner corner you into a no-win situation? Do they ask you questions that make you wrong no matter what you say?

In the first segment, I talk about double binds in relationships and a couple of ways to get out of the no-win questioning that often happens in both non-abusive and abusive relationships.

For segment 2, I discuss lashing out and where it comes from. Are they new emotions that seem to originate in the moment or are they old, stored emotions that derived from a single point in time?

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So What You’re Afraid – Avoiding Unavoidable People – To Start Anew or Wait for the Old

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Honoring your boundaries can be the hardest step to take in your personal development, and it’s also one of the fastest ways to start creating a life without toxicity and dysfunction. But what if you’re too scared to do it?

Getting to a place where fear goes away isn’t easy – it can take a lot of inner growth, leading to the confidence and courage to do whatever it takes to let others know what is acceptable and what is not. [Read more…]

Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction

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Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
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Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction
July 9, 2017
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Comparing yourself to other people is the fastest way to low self-worth and low self-esteem.

Why do we always compare ourselves to people that are better looking, wealthier, healthier, and have more success in areas of life that we are still working on? It seems like a black hole of misery that will never end.

In segment one, I talk about one of my good friends who is self-employed and wondering why she isn’t succeeding after a few months of what I see has been a very successful time for her. She is comparing her success to those that have been in the business for a long time and that comparison is making her feel down.

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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies

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How do you handle negative feedback? There’s a golden opportunity to sink or swim when someone puts you down. Their comments don’t have to equal pain and a hit on your self-worth or self-esteem.

In fact, maybe it’s possible that the one person you remember putting you down is the very impetus you needed to improve something about yourself.

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Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People

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When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they’re sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence?

If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It’s a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself.

Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn’t always easy to show up authentically.

In the second segment, I read a letter from someone I call Larry. He said he can’t get his girlfriend’s two-night stand out of his head. Even though that relationship ended way before Larry met her, he still has an issue with it.

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