Codependence is when two or more people fulfill a need for each other that strengthens a dysfunction between them.
You usually see this kind of dynamic between a helper / people-pleaser, and a drug addict / alcoholic or abuser. Even someone who is just needy or desperate for attention can be the second half of a codependent relationship.
In either case, there is the dysfunction of one person continuing to support the dysfunctional behavior of another. It’s the perfect imbalance of love and energy: One person gets their needs met more and more, while the other builds resentment but keeps on giving in to the needs of the other. [Read more…]