The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

  • Home
  • Deeper Learning
  • All Episodes
  • About
    • About Me and the Show
    • TOB Newsletter
    • Contact
    • Kind Words by Amazing People
    • Media Kit
    • Privacy Policy
  • Support the show

Acceptance and Grieving the Breakup

4 Comments

One of the hardest life events to get over is a breakup or loss of someone we love.

When my wife left me, I was devastated. I was completely in shock and had no idea what to do. I actually fell to the floor and cried like a baby. That’s embarrassing to admit, but I’m willing to bet you understand what that’s like.

I felt truly loved and cherished by her. She was someone who finally understood me and loved me unconditionally, and I was losing her. I was angry and sad, and felt like I was being abandoned.

I was in a state of complete hopelessness.

I also came to the conclusion that she didn’t believe in marriage like I did. After all, how could she throw it all away? Why wouldn’t she work harder at this? In my head, I asked her, “Isn’t marriage important to you?” [Read more…]

Filed Under: Abandonment, Behavior, Divorce, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Rejection, Relationships Tagged With: couples counseling, divorce, how to accept the breakup, how to get over the sadness of breaking up, marriage trouble, relationships

Getting Control Back – The Small Door Out of Depression – The Unforever Soulmate – Emotionally Disconnected Partners

Leave a Comment

Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
Episode play icon
Getting control back – The small door out of depression – The unforever soulmate – Emotionally disconnected partners
July 3, 2016

It’s a question to ponder, where do your loyalties lie, and what should you do with a secret you are committed to keeping? 

Are you at a job that feels like you are being dominated or controlled? Is there a way out of this without quitting?

There may be. I got a response from a listener who wrote before. They took my advice about her work situation and everything turned out for the better. Controlling bosses no longer drove her mad.

What keeps you at work you don’t like anyway? What’s motivating you to stay miserable?

In another segment, I talk about depression. Why does depression kick in so hard? And why is it so challenging to get back out of it once you’re in it?

No joy, no pain, no feeling at all. Even suicidal thoughts can come into play. Or sometimes you’re so apathetic you don’t even care about that.

In this episode, I talk about a small door, or portal, out of depression.

In the Ask Paul segment, I read a letter from someone who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s friendship with his ex-girlfriends and hates it when he talks about other girls in general.

And finally, I end the show with a few words on emotionally disconnected people.

Filed Under: Behavior, Control, Depression, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Emotionally Disconnected Partners, Getting Control Back, The Small Door Out of Depression, The Unforever Soulmate

The Process of Self-Sabotage – You Don’t Have to Forgive Everyone – Anxiety All The Time

Leave a Comment

The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
Episode play icon
The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
May 1, 2016

Why do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backward.

Sometimes you are not in alignment with a bigger vision for yourself. The reason is that you might actually have a value hidden under the surface that you didn’t even know was there. I talk about this self-sabotaging behavior in segment one of this episode.

[Read more…]

Filed Under: anger, anxiety, Ask Paul, Dysfunction, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Human Potential, Infidelity, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Physical Health, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Shame, Values, Worry Tagged With: Anxiety All The Time, The Process of Self-Sabotage, You Don't Have to Forgive Everyone

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

Leave a Comment

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
Episode play icon
The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
March 6, 2016

Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.

If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself? 

[Read more…]

Filed Under: abuse, anxiety, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Guilt, Human Potential, Infidelity, Loneliness, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: cheating in a marriage, Emotional Abuse, I have an abused mind, verbal abuse, Wanting others to do what you want

Should You Divorce the Thoughts of Staying in a Bad Marriage?

Leave a Comment

I received an email from a woman I’ll call “Jenny.” Jenny is in quite an unempowering situation, being married to a man who simply doesn’t care about her. He makes decisions without her, dismisses her, disrespects her, basically does anything he wants, and also expects her to do what he wants. 

Jenny is in an unhappy marriage.

She reached out to me to thank me for helping her and many others. I was grateful to get her message. 

[Read more…]

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Behavior, Divorce, Human Potential, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries, Relationships Tagged With: divorce, marriage, unhappy in relationship, When is it time for a divorce?

  • « Previous Page
  • 1
  • …
  • 18
  • 19
  • 20
  • 21
  • 22
  • Next Page »

Categories

Love and Abuse
The podcast about navigating the difficult relationship

Get the book!

Click to buy anything on Amazon to support TOB!

Copyright © TheOverwhelmedBrain.com - The Overwhelmed Brain, LLC All Rights Reserved

Subscribe to TOB Insights: The Emotional Intelligence Newsletter
x
Invalid email address
Thanks for subscribing! If you don't get an email from me shortly, check junk folder.

TOB Insights

The Emotional Intelligence newsletter

Invalid email address
I never spam
Thanks for subscribing! Check your inbox.