The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

The Deception of Perfectionism

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imperfections perfectionismWhen you suffer from perfectionism based in fear, you become more and more miserable as time goes on. In fact, the more perfect and controlling you are, the more disappointed with life you get. Does it make sense to be perfect? Is it actually more destructive than helpful? Many times yes.

There is a healthy perfectionism and an unhealthy one. The question is: Are you suffering or evolving? How you answer says it all. If you’re a perfectionist and are suffering because of it, continue reading. [Read more…]

How Do You Show Up For Life?

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authenticity, genuine, honest, integrityHow you show up for life is how your life turns out. So many people think they are a victim of circumstances, but when they connect the dots in reverse, they can the decisions and actions that led to their place in life now.

How do you show up for anything? Do you wear a mask to show people someone you’re not? Let’s dive into this topic and figure out if authenticity is the key and showing up on day one as “yourself” is your best option. [Read more…]

Perceptions and Why You Aren’t Always Right

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What you perceive to be true and what is actually true aren’t always the same.

In fact, those two things can be so far removed from each other, you might wonder how you ever thought what you thought in the first place.

You are not always right, this you already know. But what about when you know you’re right and you decide to take action on that “knowledge”?

Who is affected by your behavior when you depend on a belief that may actually be incorrect?

Your perceptions define your reality, and your behavior is based on what you believe to be real. This article is a reminder that what you think is true may just be an alternate reality that you made up. [Read more…]

The Everyday Bully and Bullying Behavior

The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
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The Everyday Bully and Bully Behavior
May 17, 2015

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for.

In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying.

I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.

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When Those Deeper Negative Emotions Just Won’t Go Away

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Expressing those deep, negative emotions that you’ve been holding onto from your past should lead to a release of the emotional energy behind them, and free you from the burden of holding onto the pain.

However sometimes what you express, vent or release isn’t all of it, and you need to dig a little deeper to get to the real pain that’s keeping you from moving on.

In this article, I’ll help you dive into that deeper pain to help you reach closure and healing. [Read more…]