Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.
If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself?
[Read more…]Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.
Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.
Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.
Forgiveness is not about other people. It’s about you. When you can learn to forgive yourself, even when you aren’t the one to blame, you let go of the negative emotions so that you can take the learnings into your future.
Also, I talk about John Gibson, the pastor who committed suicide after hackers revealed millions of user names and detailed information about the users from the Ashley Madison infidelity and cheating site.
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When it comes to visiting family, who you are can sometimes regress into the child they remember you as instead of the fully capable adult that you are now.
How do you know this is happening? When you’re afraid to be yourself around them, it’s happening.
Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have all kinds of mannerisms that different people give different names for.
In my opinion, anytime someone wants you to feel bad or forces you to do something against your will, it is bullying.
I recently realized that I was a bully in my marriage. This led to some interesting insights I share in this episode. That, along with learning about how the typical bully ticks (and some things you can do to avoid being a victim of bullying) is what I talk about today.
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