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When Love Isn’t Enough – Will Marriage Fix Dysfunction? – Untying Selfishness From Personal Boundaries – Tolerating Abuse

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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
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When love isn’t enough – Will marriage fix dysfunction? – Untying selfishness from personal boundaries – Tolerating abuse
January 29, 2017

Is love enough? Will it overcome anything that happens in your life?

Financial struggles, family problems, arguments, abuse, and more… will your faith in love be enough to get you through the tough times? I read a letter from a young man who wonders if love is enough to get through anything. To add a bit of challenge on top of that, what if that love is only one-sided?

 
Love is supporting the other person’s path and wanting them to be happy. When you start with that, it can blossom outward from there. If you start with anything less, you may not have room for anything more.

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Transforming the Emotionally Abusive Relationship

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When I was first getting to know my partner, she told me about her relationship with her ex. She said that they were the best of friends, so it only made sense that developing that friendship into a romantic relationship would enhance what they had and bring them even closer.

After several years of emotional abuse and a bitter divorce, she left that relationship a shell of her former self.

Emotionally abusive people know exactly how to be a good friend. They show up when you need them. They say all the right things. They appear to be genuinely kind and generous to you and the rest of the world.

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The Toxic Episode – Toxic Relationships, Validating Toxic Friends, Enabling Toxic Behavior

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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
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The Toxic Episode – The toxic relationship – Validating toxic friends – Enabling Toxic Behavior
December 4, 2016

Toxic relationships: Friends, family, coworkers, and more – What can you do if you can’t get away from them? Do you even know how to get away from them? How can you continue a relationship when you have no choice but to be with a toxic person? This episode gets into how to deal with toxic people in your life.

Also, I read what a reviewer said about my show: Stay Away! 

What do you think, should you stay away? I’m not here to defend the show or tell you what to listen to, I’d rather you come to your own conclusion and make the decision from there. I’m honored when someone takes the time to provide reviews for the show, even bad ones, it tells me they actually care about their own personal growth and want the best for themselves. Plus, they are genuinely expressing themselves, something I promote and encourage everyone to do!

The Silent Treatment – How Emotional Withdrawal Dissolves Love

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We’ve all done it. At one time or another, you’ve emotionally withdrawn from someone who set off some sort of emotional trigger in you.

The Silent Treatment is a protection mechanism that kicks in when you feel hurt, unsafe, or triggered in some way. When someone does or says something that betrays your values, morals, or beliefs, you may withdraw and put on your “emotional armor.”

Some information may be so hard to accept or understand that you just want to slip back into your shell so that you can process it and figure out what to do next.

Important: If you believe that you may be doing emotionally abusive behavior and would like to change that about yourself, sign up for the life-changing Healed Being program over at healedbeing.com).

If you are currently in a relationship with someone who uses the silent treatment to make you feel guilty or sad, listen to my podcast Love and Abuse to help you navigate through the difficulties.

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The Plight of the People-Pleaser

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People-pleasers appear to be very thoughtful. They will do everything they can to make sure those they love (and even those they don’t) are happy.

At first, this sounds like the ideal person to have in your life! After all, if they are set out to make you happy, who could ask for anything more?

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