Judging others is a sign of something you’re struggling with or haven’t healed from internally. It is anger, sadness, or some other bad feeling that you haven’t yet processed that is coming out and being directed at other people. [Read more…]
What you say isn’t always what they hear. What they understand isn’t always what you conveyed. Who is responsible for the communication, you? Them? Both? Neither? It’s time to explore this topic.
On Ask Paul part 1, I read a message from someone who got out of a manipulative, abusive relationship with a malignant narcissist. It was a crazy time for her and she is healing, but she shares a lesson for us all.
On Ask Paul part 2, I read a letter from someone still obsessing over his ex. They were together a short time but he’s still grieving over the death of their relationship. What can you do when you’re in that state?
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I talk a little more on manipulative people and share with you what might make them that way in the first place. Association and dissociation may play a role in their behavior. If you’re not familiar with those terms, you will be after this episode.
And, what if you do all this healing and growth but you realize that your partner doesn’t want to change? In fact, they are happy just where they are, dysfunction and all. But instead of leaving, you decide to create accountability and tell them if they don’t shape up, you’re shipping out!
In the last segment, I talk about someone who worked hard on their relationship for two years. Their partner finally grows into the person they wanted them to be but… are they still in love? Is it too late now? I get a letter that addresses that very question.
How about guilt for thinking about leaving your abusive spouse? Yes, people can actually develop guilty feelings for thinking about leaving someone that disrespects and even abuses them. That’s an important topic to discuss, so let’s dive into that too.
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Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship however can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.
If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused or are you abusing yourself? [Read more…]
Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship, as it tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves. This builds resentment in them and will eventually crumble even the most intimate relationships.
If it doesn’t crumble then it suffers. This article explains how your triggers form your judgments and how your judgments can ruin your life if you don’t learn what to do with them. [Read more…]