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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers

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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
June 4, 2017

Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and/or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are.

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Filed Under: abuse, anger, Ask Paul, Control, Divorce, Ego, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Guilt, Human Potential, Identity, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Diminishing Emotional Triggers, Emotional Abuse, How do I know if I'm being emotionally abused?, Identifying Your Sense of Self, Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser, verbal abuse, What is emotional abuse?

When it’s time to call it quits in a relationship – Weaning family off you – Finding Purpose

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When it’s time to call it quits in a relationship – Weaning family off you – Finding Purpose
April 30, 2017

Is it time to call it quits in your relationship? When do you know? Are there signs that you can look at that might make you think, “Hey, that’s happening to us! Maybe we should split up.”

There are many indications that it might be time to call it quits in your relationship, but it doesn’t mean you have to split up. In fact, listen with your partner if you think you may be experiencing relationship hiccups so that you can discuss what can be done instead of just throwing in the towel.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Control, Decisions, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Passion, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Finding Purpose, Weaning family off you, When it's time to call it quits in a relationship

Don’t Want You in My Mind – Spouse’s Parents Don’t Like Me – Most Important Relationship Lessons – Standing in Other’s Shoes

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Don’t Want You in My Mind – Spouse’s Parents Don’t Like Me – Most Important Relationship Lessons – Standing in Other’s Shoes
April 23, 2017

What is it with pervasive thoughts about people you don’t particularly care about? You already don’t want to see them in person, so how do you keep them from appearing in your mind?

In segment one of today’s show, I read a letter from a woman who can’t get her husband’s ex-wife out of her mind. How do you get rid of consistent, unwelcome thoughts like this?

How can you finally rid yourself of that one persistent thought in your mind’s eye? I have a few suggestions.  

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Beliefs, Compassion, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Judgment, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Thinking, Toxic People Tagged With: Don't Want You in My Mind, Most Important Relationship Lessons, Spouse's Parents Don't Like Me, Standing in Other's Shoes

Failing the Challenge – Silent Abuse in Relationships – Depressed and Unmotivated – Appreciating What Works

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Failing the Challenge – Silent Abuse in Relationships – Depressed and Unmotivated – Appreciating What Works
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Failing the Challenge – Silent Abuse in Relationships – Depressed and Unmotivated – Appreciating What Works
March 26, 2017

What do you do when you have to face a challenge that you believe you’re prepared for, but fail instead?

The feelings of failure can be debilitating, especially when you’ve spent a lot of time and energy working on self-improvement. It can feel like you’ve taken 10 steps backward. Learning comes with the challenge of applying what you’ve learned, so expect challenges to be just more than you think you’re prepared for.

When you have the tools, the challenge will come.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Control, Depression, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Manipulation, Negative Emotions, Overwhelm, Physical Health, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People Tagged With: Appreciating Your Body, Depressed and Unmotivated, Emotional Abuse, Failing Challenges, Silent Abuse, verbal abuse

Surviving the Crisis – Self-Perpetuating Abuse – Building Resilience Through Criticism

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Surviving the Crisis – Self-Perpetuating Abuse – Building Resilience Through Criticism
March 12, 2017

When you’re in crisis mode, is there anything you can do to bring you into a calmer, more peaceful place?

Not always. In fact, you may have to experience the full impact of the crisis before any calm or comfort can be had. However, you may be able to prepare for a crisis so it doesn’t completely debilitate you.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Control, Depression, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Loss, Overwhelm, Podcast Episode, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Emotional Abuse, resilience through criticism, Self-abuse, Surviving Crisis, verbal abuse

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