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They love you but don’t like to say it – Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex – You can manipulate but should you

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They love you but don’t like to say it – Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex – You can manipulate but should you
They love you but don’t like to say it – Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex – You can manipulate but should you
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They love you but don’t like to say it – Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex – You can manipulate but should you
December 24, 2017
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Segment 1: Is it hard for you or your partner to say I love you?

Sometimes the past can play an important role to prevent or encourage those words to come out of someone’s mouth. If the love is there but the words aren’t, it doesn’t always mean there is no love. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Guilt, Human Potential, Loneliness, Manipulation, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships Tagged With: Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex, They love you but don't like to say it, You can manipulate but should you?

When your partner sides with their family against you

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When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
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When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
April 8, 2018
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If your partner’s family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do?

When you can’t feel safe in your own relationship because your partner’s priority is his or her own family over you, you may have some hard choices to make. In this episode, Matthew Bivens and I have an emotionally intelligent conversation about an email I received from a woman whose husband shared her personal message to a relative of his.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Betrayal, Codependency, Control, Decisions, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, enabling, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: blood is thicker, mama's boy, unhealthy family ties

Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
November 26, 2017
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Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?

It’s not all bad, but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, abuse, Ask Paul, childhood, Children, Codependency, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Lying, Manipulation, Narcissism, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sex, Shame, Suicide Tagged With: childhood sexual abuse, lost in thought, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic ex

Freeze instead of fight or flight – Learning what didn’t work with the ex – Healing the hole in your heart

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Freeze instead of fight or flight – Learning what didn’t work with the ex – Healing the hole in your heart
Freeze instead of fight or flight – Learning what didn’t work with the ex – Healing the hole in your heart
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Freeze instead of fight or flight – Learning what didn’t work with the ex – Healing the hole in your heart
November 12, 2017
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What happens when you freeze instead of fight or flee? Is there anything you can do when you simply can’t function? In the first segment, I talk about the inability to move or sometimes even think when something or someone triggers you or you become stressed.

Freezing can often come from childhood when you felt like you could do nothing during a traumatic event. Learn to train yourself to stay aware of what’s happening so that the freeze doesn’t come.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Behavior, Divorce, Human Potential, Loneliness, Loss, Marriage, Mourning, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Worth Tagged With: Freeze instead of fight or flight, Healing the hole in your heart, Learning what didn't work with the ex

The abuse victim’s perspective – Step-parents and step-children – When honoring yourself leads to loneliness

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The abuse victim’s perspective – Step-parents and step-children – When honoring yourself leads to loneliness
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The abuse victim’s perspective – Step-parents and step-children – When honoring yourself leads to loneliness
November 5, 2017
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Why don’t abuse victims leave the relationship? The world can look at someone who is clearly being abused by their partner and say things like, “Why don’t you just leave?” But the abuse victim’s reality is a lot different from those who’ve not experienced what it’s like to have an abused mind.

Their perceptions and beliefs about the world are entirely different than ours so leaving isn’t the easy path others make it out to be. Segment 1 is all about the perspective of the abuse victim and why it’s not as easy to leave the abuser as it may appear to others.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Children, Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Family, Human Potential, Loneliness, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Emotional Abuse, Step-parents and step-children, The abuse victim's perspective, verbal abuse, When honoring yourself leads to loneliness

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