The Overwhelmed Brain

Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers

Feeling Unworthy by Comparison – Your Partner’s Controlling Parent – Breakdown of Narcissism – Recycling Dysfunction

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Comparing yourself to other people is the fastest way to low self-worth and low self-esteem.

Why do we always compare ourselves to people that are better looking, wealthier, healthier, and have more success in areas of life that we are still working on? It seems like a black hole of misery that will never end.

In segment one, I talk about one of my good friends who is self-employed and wondering why she isn’t succeeding after a few months of what I see has been a very successful time for her. She is comparing her success to those that have been in the business for a long time and that comparison is making her feel down.

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Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex

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How do you go about rekindling with toxic and/or dysfunctional family members? Is it worth “going home” and starting up those old, dysfunctional, family get-togethers again?

Is it possible to avoid the toxicity of a dysfunctional family past? There is a way to return to a toxic family environment but it’s going to take some courage to be the person you want to be with the people that have always known you the way you were. I talk about that and more in segment one.

In segment two, I read a message from someone who shares what it’s like honoring yourself. Joshua says that he’s been taking steps to stand up for himself and express his truths to people that he never has before. He is showing up as that authentic person he’s always wanted to be and things are happening for him in a way that never has.

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All those years wasted with your ex – When hope works against you – What’s under the stream of negative emotions

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How can you possibly forget that one ex who “wasted” years of your life? How can you possibly forgive them, either?

In the first segment of this episode, I read a letter from someone who married a big problem and now she is upset at him for “stealing” so many years of her life. She wants to forgive and move on but can’t seem to do it.

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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers

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Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and/or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are.

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Sex Starts Before the Bedroom – Achieving Closure After the Breakup – Attracting Authentic People

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When does sex really start? Is it when you’re taking off your clothes?

Does it start when that heated kissing or “petting” begins? If you are emotionally connected, you already know when sex starts – way before you ever step into the bedroom.  If, however, you’re somewhat detached from your emotions, sex is probably, mainly a physical thing for you.

Regardless of where you are on the spectrum of sexual intelligence, this segment is all about how to build up to it the right way so that it is as enjoyable as it can be. The buildup, the trust, the vulnerability, the attentiveness, the receptiveness, and a whole lot more can make or break a great sexual encounter, let alone a healthy, happy sex life to begin with. [Read more…]