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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies

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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies
Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies
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Handling negative feedback – Stop worrying about everything – Enabling is disabling – Guilt and apologies
July 4, 2017

How do you handle negative feedback? There’s a golden opportunity to sink or swim when someone puts you down. Their comments don’t have to equal pain and a hit on your self-worth or self-esteem.

In fact, maybe it’s possible that the one person you remember putting you down is the very impetus you needed to improve something about yourself.

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Filed Under: Ask Paul, enabling, Family, Fears, Guilt, Human Potential, Overwhelm, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Worry Tagged With: constructive criticism, enabling dysfunctional people, negative feedback, worrying about everthing

Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People

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Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
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Does Authenticity Make You Cringe – Getting Past Your Partner’s Past – Building Rapport with People
June 25, 2017

When someone expresses themselves to you, do you cringe at the thought of you doing the same? Does the idea of sharing what they’re sharing make you feel uncomfortable? Does it stop you from living life the way you want with authenticity and confidence?

If you feel uncomfortable or shy when someone shares something vulnerable with you, that may be a sign that something could use some healing in you, if you want to explore it. It’s a great way to tell just what you need to work on in yourself.

Full expression can make you feel lighter and stronger at the same time, but it isn’t always easy to show up authentically.

In the second segment, I read a letter from someone I call Larry. He said he can’t get his girlfriend’s two-night stand out of his head. Even though that relationship ended way before Larry met her, he still has an issue with it.

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Filed Under: abuse, anger, Ask Paul, Control, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Human Potential, Jealousy, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sex, Vulnerability Tagged With: building rapport, cringing at your own authenticity, your partner's past

Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex

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Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
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Rekindling with toxic family – The long-term results of honoring yourself – Even the victim plays a role – Contact or no contact your ex
June 18, 2017

How do you go about rekindling with toxic and/or dysfunctional family members? Is it worth “going home” and starting up those old, dysfunctional, family get-togethers again?

Is it possible to avoid the toxicity of a dysfunctional family past? There is a way to return to a toxic family environment but it’s going to take some courage to be the person you want to be with the people that have always known you the way you were. I talk about that and more in segment one.

In segment two, I read a message from someone who shares what it’s like honoring yourself. Joshua says that he’s been taking steps to stand up for himself and express his truths to people that he never has before. He is showing up as that authentic person he’s always wanted to be and things are happening for him in a way that never has.

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Filed Under: abuse, childhood, Children, Control, Decisions, Depression, Desires, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Human Potential, Loneliness, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People, Victim Mentality Tagged With: Contact or no contact your ex, Emotional Abuse, Even the victim plays a role, Rekindling with toxic family, The long-term results of honoring yourself, verbal abuse

Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers

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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
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Identifying Your Sense of Self – Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser – Diminishing Emotional Triggers
June 4, 2017

Your sense of self and identity can dissolve or even be rewritten over years of trauma, abuse, and/or dysfunction.

Dis-integration can happen after a lifetime of challenges that you haven’t yet healed from, causing you to feel scattered and feel like you have no purpose.

When you don’t have a strong emotional foundation, the hard times are harder and you feel beat up and burnt out almost all the time so it’s important to establish who you are.

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Filed Under: abuse, anger, Ask Paul, Control, Divorce, Ego, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Guilt, Human Potential, Identity, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Rejection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Diminishing Emotional Triggers, Emotional Abuse, How do I know if I'm being emotionally abused?, Identifying Your Sense of Self, Overcoming the Guilt of Leaving the Emotional Abuser, verbal abuse, What is emotional abuse?

When it’s time to call it quits in a relationship – Weaning family off you – Finding Purpose

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When it’s time to call it quits in a relationship – Weaning family off you – Finding Purpose
April 30, 2017

Is it time to call it quits in your relationship? When do you know? Are there signs that you can look at that might make you think, “Hey, that’s happening to us! Maybe we should split up.”

There are many indications that it might be time to call it quits in your relationship, but it doesn’t mean you have to split up. In fact, listen with your partner if you think you may be experiencing relationship hiccups so that you can discuss what can be done instead of just throwing in the towel.

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Filed Under: abuse, Ask Paul, Control, Decisions, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Passion, Personal Boundaries, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth Tagged With: Finding Purpose, Weaning family off you, When it's time to call it quits in a relationship

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