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The Bad First Impression – Living with Debilitating Pain – Fear of Doing What’s Right For You

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The Bad First Impression – Living with Debilitating Pain – Fear of Doing Whats Right For You

September 4, 2016

Making a bad first impression is not necessarily your fault. You could be well dressed, have a great hair day, have good breath, and even have the best personality, but that mole behind your ear makes them think of their mean uncle and suddenly, their first impression of you is that you aren’t trustworthy and maybe even harmful.

That’s quite a jump in logic but it does happen. In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the first impression a listener got with this show and how he criticized every episode I’ve ever created by listening to one 15-minute segment in a single episode.

What do you do when that one person criticizes you or your work? How do you block or avoid the emotional pain behind such a thing?

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The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends

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The Yeah But Mentality – Life After Abuse – Rejecting Former Friends

August 28, 2016

Ever have a friend that said “Yeah But…” to every good suggestion you made? How about when they actually ask for your advice, you give it, but they don’t do it because their excuse machine activates?

There are two types of people I talk about in the first segment: “Yeah, But” people, and “Okay, I’ll Try It” people. Sure, there are millions of other types of people out there, but it’s a good start.

Also, I receive a letter from a woman who decided to remove toxic family members from her life and get away from abuse. She took massive first steps, but what’s next? How can you recover from a life of abuse? How can you get to a place beyond where you can relax and feel good again?

Finally, I read another letting about what it might take to reject people in your life. How about those sensitive people that might be hurt by rejection? Is there a way to get away from those who keep showing up when you don’t want them to? Sounds like a great thing to talk about.

Kids Humiliating Kids – My Boss is Irrational – Enablers Give Their Dependents a Free Ride – The Meaning of Spirituality

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Kids Humiliating Kids – My Boss is Irrational – Enablers Give Their Dependents a Free Ride – The Meaning of Spirituality

March 20, 2016

In this multi-faceted episode, I’ll talk about how bullies love when you react negatively and what to do to squash the energy behind their bullying.

This is from a letter from a kid who got bullied in school and was humiliated to the point where he didn’t want to go back. Adopting a “who cares?” attitude can be very helpful in situations like this.

In the second segment, I talk about someone with an irrational boss. What do you do when your boss is completely crazy? The lizard brain kicks in, and you can react like a human, or perhaps what really needs to happen is for you to react like another lizard!

I also talk about spirituality in this episode, something I rarely talk about on this show. When the trauma is too much, and you can’t get beyond it, maybe spirituality is a factor in healing. After all, when even the worst events in life have a positive meaning of some sort, it can surely help get beyond the pain and other negative feelings.

Finally, I discuss enabling and empowerment. This episode is packed.

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

March 6, 2016

Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.

If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself?

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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments – Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents – Creating the Life You Want

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Getting the Big Picture in Arguments, Honoring Personal Boundaries with Parents, and Creating the Life You Want

November 1, 2015

Segment one: Stepping out of the details so that you can see a bigger picture is one of the best ways to end an argument. When you “chunk up” into a broader perspective instead of staying “chunked down” and embroiled in the details, you’re able to step out of all the negative emotional energy about the situation.

Segment two: A listener who just graduated college wrote and asked about honoring his personal boundaries with his parents and how to get along with a particular family member who doesn’t seem to like him.

Segment Three: I talk about what it really means to “create the life you want.” If you’ve had trouble doing that up to now, this is the segment for you.

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