The Overwhelmed Brain

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My Healing Journey from Being an Emotional Abuser

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Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It often hides in the form of feigned helplessness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing the person on the receiving end to become powerless.

Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is often hard to spot in the moment as it can be seen as benign or even “normal” to most observers.

But as this behavior is repeated time and time again, the insidious compound effect of this form of hidden abuse causes its victims to lose confidence in themselves, stop trusting in their own decisions, feel devalued and unimportant, and blame themselves for being the cause of, and sometimes even deserving, of the abusive behavior.

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    Can Your Relationship Heal After An Affair?

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    If you’ve been the victim or the perpetrator of infidelity, or you suspect that there might be cheating in your relationship, this article will help you understand several important aspects of the cheater’s behavior, the cheating partner’s perspective, and what both partners need to focus on if they are planning on saving the relationship after the affair is discovered.

    Whether you want to save your relationship or not, this article will be a good resource to help you understand the perspective of both partners.

    A relationship can survive infidelity if both partners want to work on it, but there are some challenging steps ahead for the couple on this path.

    This article is a path to understanding the basic components of the cheater, cheating in general, and what it takes to create a successful relationship during the rebuilding process. 

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    When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy

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    When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy
    When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy
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    When your parent doesn’t make you feel worthy
    May 20, 2018

    Where does your self-worth come from if it isn’t instilled in you from your parents or caretakers? There is a path to a higher sense of self-worth and self-esteem. It may not be an easy path, but it does exist.

    In this episode, I read a message from someone who’s father prefers his new family over his old one.

    Exploring Infidelity: Can The Relationship Survive The Affair?

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    Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
    Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
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    Exploring infidelity – Can the relationship survive the affair
    March 25, 2018

    Cheating might be the end of most relationships, but many couples have survived and thrived after an affair. There are many components to infidelity so it’s important to understand it from all sides.

    In this episode, I explore the basics of cheating and what will allow your relationship to survive and heal after the affair.

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    Stupid Questions to That Lead to Healing

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    Asking yourself stupid questions can help you heal from old emotional wounds.

    I use a “drill-down” technique to get to the root of fear, shame, guilt, and other emotions I don’t like feeling. When you’re drilling down into an issue you’re having, and you get to the point where you say, “Well, that’s a stupid question,” don’t stop, you’re on to something!

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