Stonewalling is damaging to a relationship and can make it fail if whatever is shut down is never brought up to be resolved. If you give your partner the silent treatment, you need to hear this segment. In segment two, I talk about expectations in friendships. Should friendships be an equal, two-way street or can there be imbalance where one person does all the work and the other just lets them do it?
[Read more…]See me, Judge me – The Distant Partner with the Needy Partner – Stop Oversharing – What is No Contact?
Four topics in this episode: A listener calls me smug and superior, a woman with emotional needs is seeing a man with intimacy issues, a listener can’t stop oversharing her life with complete strangers and I talk about what it means to go full no contact from your ex.
[Read more…]Blaming Others for Everything – Does time heal? – The overworking ADD partner – Hanging up on family
Do you blame everyone else for what happens to you in your life?
In segment one, I argue that even when everything that goes wrong in your life isĀ someone else’s fault, you can still get the results you want by doing one thing: Accepting responsibility for your role in what happens to you.
It’s a new way to create and measure your success so that you can come up with a game plan that’s right for you. [Read more…]
What are Guilt and Shame – Fearing Rejection and Abandonment – Solving All Your Problems
Guilt and shame are two battles in two different dimensions: Internal and external.
Internally, you can feel guilt for something you’ve said or done. Externally, you can feel shame by being the recipient of other people’s judging and blaming.
In this episode, a listener asks me the difference between the two so I do my best to explain how I see it.
[Read more…]Beyond Help: What Happens If Your Therapist Rejects You?
In the March 5th, 2017 episode of The Overwhelmed Brain, I tackled the ultimate challenge: The General Feeling of Unwell Being. Like a cloud of misery that follows you throughout life.
What inspired that episode was a letter I received from a woman who wrote to me that said she went to her workplace counselor who told her: “You have too many problems, we can’t help you.”
WOW!