Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
When you get a second chance at a job, relationship, or anything that you wanted a do-over on, what’s the best way to show up?
Do you try to impress and show others how much you’ve changed? Or does that actually work against you?
What does it take to honor your boundaries and live from that authentic place inside you? Do you earn the respect you deserve?
You might be surprised to find out that respect from others happens naturally when you honor yourself and your personal boundaries. Doing this shows the world who you really are, and what behavior is okay, and what is not.
You are worthy and deserve respect. Honoring yourself shows the world the type of behavior you will and won’t accept, improving your relationships and keeping you not only happier, but sane!
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Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.
This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.
This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.
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Have you ever met someone who complained about their circumstances but wasn’t willing to do anything to change them?
In fact, if you were to suggest a possible solution to them, they would come up with an excuse or valid-sounding reason for why your suggestion wouldn’t work. And the more you tried to help, the more flaws they’d find in your logic.
The hard truth is that some people don’t want to change, nor do they want others around them to help them change. People like this refuse to acknowledge the role they play in their misery and often blame others for their suffering.
If you are intertwined with someone like this, you might have to be careful that you are not helping to enable this behavior. This type of person may find comfort in your attention to their misery. And as long as they are getting their needs met, they may not mind if you become miserable along with them as you try to help them.
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If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this article is for you.
As a former people-pleaser, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.
Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills by reading this article.
This article is meant to be tongue-in-cheek but also contains an important reminder about how people-pleasing almost always leads to unhappiness.
Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:
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