Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Do you enable behavior that you don’t like? Is it possible that the people that cause you stress do so because you are allowing it in some way?
This episode covers a very important topic that may help you get your power back if you adopt and apply the message.
For more on enabling bad behavior, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast.
I was chatting with a client recently and told her that over the weekend, I drank a soda. This may not be a shock to you, but it was for me because I haven’t had a soda in about twenty years.
I was at a horse farm with my girlfriend enjoying some time away from home, and this craving came over me. I really, really wanted a soda.
Every time I’ve tried to drink soda in the past (after I quit soft drinks), I got an instant headache. This was a blessing when I was getting off my soft drink addiction because it made the cravings a lot easier to reject.
[Read more…]Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.
When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.
In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.
If your life is filled with stress and an overall sense of unhappiness, you may be unknowingly making decisions that are hurting you in ways that you don’t even realize.
Picture a funnel for a moment. A funnel can be a great visualization of what happens when you make a decision. The stem (the small opening) represents the choice you have before you. The mouth (the wide part) represents the outcomes that manifest because of those choices.
I like that visualization because a choice stems from a thought that leads to an action that could lead to massive change in your life. Your choice “funnels” out into the world, affecting you and everything in it sometimes.
[Read more…]There’s a great lie many of us use throughout life called a quantifier.
A quantifier indicates the quantity of something. Anytime you insert quantifiers in a statement about what you can or can’t do, you may inadvertently limit your capacity to succeed.
Here are some examples:
“Everyone knows that won’t work”
“He is always mad at me”
“I can’t do that because no one would like it” [Read more…]
