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Building emotional deficit – Can’t find or keep friends – In Love But Still Cheated

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Building emotional deficit – Can’t find or keep friends – In Love But Still Cheated
Building emotional deficit – Can’t find or keep friends – In Love But Still Cheated
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Building emotional deficit – Can’t find or keep friends – In Love But Still Cheated
August 21, 2016
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Should you receive something in return for everything you give? You bet, but maybe not in the way you’re thinking.

You can build an emotional deficit by giving and giving and not receiving in the way you’d like. Resentment can build and you can get very tired of being a people-pleaser.

Also, I receive a letter from someone who feels socially inept. He can’t make or keep friends, and he feels awkward on dates. Sometimes being yourself is the best solution, but who are you really being during those awkward silences?

Finally, I talk about a woman who is deeply in love with her husband and has a great sex life, yet still cheated anyway. She can’t figure out why so I explore why even a good marriage or relationship experiences infidelity.

Filed Under: Ask Paul, Human Potential, Infidelity, Negative Emotions, Podcast Episode, Relationships Tagged With: Building emotional deficit, Can't find or keep friends, In Love But Still Cheated

The Process of Self-Sabotage – You Don’t Have to Forgive Everyone – Anxiety All The Time

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The Process of Self-Sabotage – You don’t have to forgive everyone – Anxiety all the time
May 1, 2016
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Why do we fall off course so easily? When you prioritize tasks that take your time away from the things you want to accomplish, you fall back farther and farther until you are no longer making progress. In fact, you might even end up going backward.

Sometimes you are not in alignment with a bigger vision for yourself. The reason is that you might actually have a value hidden under the surface that you didn’t even know was there. I talk about this self-sabotaging behavior in segment one of this episode.

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Filed Under: anger, anxiety, Ask Paul, Dysfunction, Family, Forgiveness, Guilt, Human Potential, Infidelity, Lying, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Physical Health, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Shame, Values, Worry Tagged With: Anxiety All The Time, The Process of Self-Sabotage, You Don't Have to Forgive Everyone

The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right

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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
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The Abused Mind in Relationships – A Listener Gets Cheated On And Kicked Out – Wanting Others To Do What You Believe is Right
March 6, 2016
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Getting into an abusive relationship is a quick path to a horrible future. Getting into a great relationship, however, can seem like the best thing that ever happened… unless they cheat, then it feels like an abusive relationship.

If you decide to stay in a relationship where you know infidelity is happening, are you being abused, or are you abusing yourself? 

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Filed Under: abuse, anxiety, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Family, Guilt, Human Potential, Infidelity, Loneliness, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: cheating in a marriage, Emotional Abuse, I have an abused mind, verbal abuse, Wanting others to do what you want

Stop Justifying Your Poisonous Beliefs – The Curse of Denial

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img-6How many times in your life has something happened that was so hard to believe, that it actually hurt to believe it? You know what I mean… it’s that truth you don’t want to hear. It’s like the people who can’t believe the holocaust happened because it was just so atrocious. Or, like the email I got from a woman who found out her husband is cheating on her. It’s very hard to accept a truth that hurts us, but if we don’t, we systematically destroy ourselves.

Denial is the topic for the day.  [Read more…]

Filed Under: anxiety, Behavior, Beliefs, Betrayal, Divorce, Dysfunction, enabling, Family, Infidelity, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Personal Boundaries Tagged With: avoidance, denial, poisonous beliefs

Surviving Infidelity – An Overlooked Warning Sign and Healing After Cheating

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Infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences you can have next to losing a child. The pain that is created by the betrayal is nearly unbearable, and much healing is needed afterward, whether you stay in the relationship or not.

In this article, I talk about one sign you need to pay attention to most when you suspect cheating in your relationship. Then, after an affair is discovered, the emotional wounding that takes place will need mending and healing.

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    Filed Under: abuse, Betrayal, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Forgiveness, Infidelity, Jealousy, Manipulation, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: How can I get over the pain of the affair?, How do I get past his cheating?, husband cheated on me, I think my spouse is cheating, I'm in so much pain because she cheated, wife cheated on me

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