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Can You Control The Fate of Your Relationship?

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Carl Jung said, “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”

If you see the unfolding of events in your life as the hand life deals that you have no control over, you’re half right. Life happens and has no compassion for your situation. However, you set yourself up to fail when you choose not to look at the loose ends or unfinished emotional business you need to deal with.

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Filed Under: Beliefs, Control, Divorce, Marriage, Negative Emotions, Relationships Tagged With: authenticity, fate, repressed emotions

When your partner sides with their family against you

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When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
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When your partner changes their mind about your life plans
April 8, 2018
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If your partner’s family is against you and your partner sides with them, what do you do?

When you can’t feel safe in your own relationship because your partner’s priority is his or her own family over you, you may have some hard choices to make. In this episode, Matthew Bivens and I have an emotionally intelligent conversation about an email I received from a woman whose husband shared her personal message to a relative of his.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, Ask Paul, Betrayal, Codependency, Control, Decisions, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, enabling, Family, Human Potential, Marriage, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Toxic People Tagged With: blood is thicker, mama's boy, unhealthy family ties

Attracting higher quality partners – Feeling sorry for those that abuse you – Try, try again or do or do not?

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Attracting higher quality partners – Feeling sorry for those that abuse you – Try, try again or do or do not
Attracting higher quality partners – Feeling sorry for those that abuse you – Try, try again or do or do not
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Attracting higher quality partners – Feeling sorry for those that abuse you – Try, try again or do or do not
December 3, 2017
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Segment 1: Do you attract the worst partners? What does it take to find a normal person to date?

There is a path to attracting quality partners but it may involve facing your fear of loss.

Segment 2: If you feel bad for your emotional abuser or manipulator, you are more likely to stay in the relationship and take the abuse.

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Filed Under: abuse, Codependency, Compassion, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, enabling, Manipulation, Marriage, Relationships, Thinking, Toxic People Tagged With: Attracting higher quality partners, Feeling sorry for those that abuse you, Try try again or do or do not?

Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor

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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
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Escaping the Real World – Kids and the Narcissistic Parent – The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor
November 26, 2017
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Do you fantasize, daydream, play video games or watch TV in hopes that you won’t have to deal with reality?

It’s not all bad, but anything in moderation, right? In the first segment of this episode, I talk about the benefits of skipping reality for a little bit as long as you connect with yourself in other ways.

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Filed Under: Abandonment, abuse, Ask Paul, childhood, Children, Codependency, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Human Potential, Lying, Manipulation, Narcissism, Podcast Episode, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sex, Shame, Suicide Tagged With: childhood sexual abuse, lost in thought, narcissistic abuse, narcissistic ex

A Near Miss Still Leaves a Mark: The Danger of the Abusive Relationship

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Back in 2017, my girlfriend and I took a trip to visit my family in New Hampshire. We both enjoyed sitting with people we knew well, enjoying their friendly faces and warm conversation.

Like most families, our conversation shifted toward a “remember the time…” direction, where we shared both happy and sad memories of the past.  

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Filed Under: abuse, Behavior, Control, Divorce, Dysfunction, Emotional Abuse, Emotional Withdrawal, Family, Manipulation, Marriage, Narcissism, Physical Health, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Toxic People Tagged With: Dealing with an alcoholic person, domestic violence, Emotional Abuse, near miss

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