Emotional Intelligence for Critical Thinkers
Dysfunctional behaviors often come from trauma, neglect, or abuse, but some can come from seemingly benign areas of life as well.
We don’t know the full impact our childhood had on us until we’re older trying to relate to other people outside of our family.
In this episode, I talk about one person’s experiences from childhood and how she recognized a lot of her dysfunctions, and how she is finding a way out of them.
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Judgment can be one of the most damaging weapons in a relationship. It tells your partner that it’s not okay to be themselves.
This builds resentment in them and will eventually corrode even the most intimate relationships. Even if your relationship survives the corrosive effect of judgment, it still suffers.
This article explains how your emotional triggers form your judgments and how judging those closest to you can make you and everyone else around you miserable.
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Do you make small compromises with the people you love so that they will like or love you more?
There are two ways to compromise:
One has attached resentments, the other doesn’t.
I’ll give you one guess which method of compromise works better for the relationships in your life.
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If you show compassion toward someone who then takes advantage of that compassion, do you back off on being kind, helpful, and accommodating?
Or do you try even harder by showing them even more compassion in hopes they will finally “see the light”?
In order for compassion to work, it has to come from an even deeper place of compassion in you… not for others, but for yourself.
Then, when you are abundant in self-compassion, you will be able to show genuine caring and compassion for others without the drain on you.
To make sure your compassion doesn’t kill you in your relationships, be sure to tune into the Love and Abuse podcast.
If you find yourself people-pleasing for love, attention, or fear of confrontation, then this article is for you.
As a former people-pleaser, I’ve learned exactly what it takes to become proficient at it. I’ve gained much wisdom since growing out of that phase of my life, so I thought I’d share with you my tips on how to become the best people-pleaser possible.
Of course, if you are already a people-pleaser, you may gain some extra skills by reading this article.
This article is meant to be tongue-in-cheek but also contains an important reminder about how people-pleasing almost always leads to unhappiness.
Are you ready? Here are the eight steps to becoming the ultimate people-pleaser:
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